unknown

Hello all,

im 16 years old, and before everyone gets into parenting mode and attempts to make me feel inferior in anyway, please read the whole post before hand.

Im 16, and all my life ive been preparing myself for college, never got a B in my life. Never had a boyfriend in my life. School has been my number 1 priority.

Im pregnant. Except i don't know how to go about getting it aborted. NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS, I'M GETTING THIS ABORTION.

I'm very much against it, but i don't have a choice, and its breaking me emotionally already.

It's only been me and my mom, my dad walked out of our lives right before i was born. My mom has been struggling, so my schooling was my way of repaying her for taking great care of me.

A month and a half ago, a man broke into our duplex and beat my mother, after knocking her out cold, he raped me.

Here i am, throwing up, knowing my virginity was taken from me, by a man i didnt know. He was able to fertilize one of my eggs, and here i am now.

Thing is, i don't want to go through this, and i know im 100% against abortion, except its not fair to me, my studies, to the baby...

im only looking to see how much everything will cost, and where i should go to make it happen, as my mother doesn't have a lot to put out.

HappyMomma

What an absolutely horrible experience.. I am sorry you are going through that.

Do you have a local Planned Parenthood clinic you could inquire with?

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unknown

I'm scared they will judge me as one of "those girls". It's everything i wanted nothing apart of, thumbs up to the girls that have kids so young, and still are able to be a good mother. It's just not me. I feel so dirty. Showers don't help. Nothing.

I keep having to pretend i'm okay, and it doesnt affect me, so my mom won't feel horrible, but even the look in her eyes when she looks at me now...she feels sorry for me...

If i go to planned parenthood they will look down on me for having an abortion, but i cant tell them the story....i just cant...

HappyMomma

I would strongly advise you to seek counseling. If you are unable to afford it, please check around as there are places that will work on a sliding scale.

This is not your fault! You were assaulted, you did not choose to be in this situation.

Also, I'm pretty sure Planned Parenthood has seem MUCH worse. In fact, they may even be able to refer you to some help regarding counseling.

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Xero

I am not, I promise, telling you what to do one way or the other. Honestly, my heart goes out to you and it hurts me to know you're in pain. I hope so much that you get through this in the best way you can, and come out in one peice. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. This is so unfair for you in so many ways. You do whatever your heart tells you to, I just wanted to remind you that adoption is always there too. <3 I'm not saying you're wrong no matter what you do.

As far as your questions go, your best bet is to ask your doctor. It's the kind of thing they have to know about, so see what they have to say. I'm pretty sure that's the first place you have to go anyway when you decide to get an abortion. And I beileve my friend went (I believe??) to Ohio, and it cost something like $300. I know it can be a lot worse in most places though, so I guess I'm not sure. Must depend on where you live.

The best of luck to you.

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musicmom

There are many couples who are willing to adopt a baby without knowing anything about about it's past. Could you bring the baby into the world and have it adopted? It would be taken care of and loved
Planned parenthood is not there to judge you. You can mention rape once and tell them about the HIPPA law, they have to keep it quiet.
God Bless you little one.
In your situation I can understand the abortion however myself I would not do it.
There are stories out there of rape victims who do raise the children and are healthy happy and fine.
We are here for you sweetheart.

Xero

Adoption is also free, doesn't affect your studies, your future, your emotions, or your childhood, and IF you wanted to, a lot of people will even allow you to be involved throughout the child's life nowadays. It would be so easy to find parents that long so much for a child of their own.

I'm not trying to convince you, so don't worry about coming up with anything to reply to the adoption statements, I just wanted to make sure you knew all of that. I do understand that going through an entire pregnancy feeling dirty and your body going through a lot of things that it shouldn't have to yet would be so hard and unfair. So that's why I say to go where your heart leads you. I just want to make sure that it sees both of the paths it can take.

We're definitely all here for you.

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Good Wolf

I'm shocked that you mom is not helping you out given the circumstance. Planned parenthood WILL NOT look down on you because of this. There are many people that are against abortion when used as a method of birth control but condone it in these type of situations.

If you mom is not being supportive then I highly recommend you seek help elsewhere. This might not have occured to you but just in case...DO NOT TRY AND ABORT IT YOURSELF!!!!

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HappyMomma

I would also check into any local rape crisis centers as well. There really is a lot of resources, but you will have to look for them. Not knowing your area, I really can't help with specifics.

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unknown

I've thought of adoption, but after really thinking of it, i wouldn't for these reasons.

The baby would be apart of me, i wouldn't to any part of me up for adoption, but it is also apart of him. If i were to have this baby, looking into it's eyes would bring me back to the exact moment. And its just one of those moments in life, that when looked back at, it will seem as it just happened the other day. It would be too much for me to handle.

adoption, ive read that babies have traits that take after their parents. Its for that reason that a FULL background check is due before you donate eggs or sperm to any facility, (i know of this because my mom needed extra money). If Child Molesting or Rape appeared anywhere on their background im sure they would DEFINATELY get denied. So why should i go through with having a baby that was put on this earth by what is morally and lawfully wrong? It wouldnt be fair to the adopters, whether or not they knew of its past.

A doctor, i don't have health insurance, as i've said before, my mom, its only me and her, and she cant afford it, and being that she dropped out of high school, its hard for her to find a job that will be able to cover me, even then, she said it would still take out of her paycheck...so, i dont have a doctor.

nevertheless, thank you for all of your suggestions, sorry if you disagree with me about this abortion, i just believe that if you were put in this situation (heaven forbid) you guys would understand me just a little bit more.