mama

Hi everybody, I haven't been on this site for a long time. I am 33 weeks pregnant and I definitely need to vent and want to make an effort of coming here more often and contributing.
I am wondering if you guys have had intensely stressful days during your pregnancy when you just about lost it? This has happened to me three times now, one being yesterday when my wonderful husband just said a couple of things that got under my skin and I completely lost my cool. Yelled, screamed, cried, banged my hands on the table, etc. I cried the whole day even though he apologized 50 times. Afterwards, I thought of all the stress hormones released into my blood stream and wondering what the effects on the poor baby are and felt even worse and more weepy.
Anyway, usually I'm not this crazy, but I don't understand what's happening. It's like everybody has to tiptoe around me.
Please share your thoughts!

fallon

my first preg was very stressful!!! I was in a very bad place and things just seemed to get worse. I had nobody to talk to and it really really sucked!!! that said my baby girl is just fine. I think it's best to limit the stress but sometimes there's nothing you can do. Feel free to come here and vent as often as you need to

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1dayatatime

What Fallon said. Occasional outbrusts I wouldn't worry about at all. It happenes. I have seen a different side though. Mu hubbys ex is intensly mean and hateful. She was physically, emotionally abusive to my husband. Their child together, my stepdaughter, had colic and acid reflux when she was born. I did a little research when I was pregnant(worried my child would have issue with either) and they have found a corralation between stress during pregnancy and colic. Please remember that, this woman is a piece of work. Nine months of hostilality has to have an effect on the child. Sorry I guess I'm venting here too. This forum has great listeners.

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mama

Yes, I think constant stress and hostility must have some kind of effect. Otherwise, why do people keep emphasizing that pregnant women should do yoga and relax, etc. I hope though that my occasional outbursts didn't cause colic (although I'll take colic over other long-term problems anyday). thanks for sharing your opinions.

budnkota

I am with Fallon that I had a very difficult, stressful time during pregnancy. I had no car, my ex interferred w/my job and made that a mess, I had a 45 minute walk to the nearest bus stop and lived in a little residential area w/no businesses, so I had to use it often. I was dealing with regular harassing letters from the ex's ex-wife (eventually filed for a restraining order). I was 6 hours from the nearest relative and had only one or 2 friends in town. It was a nightmare.

But my baby never had any problems. no colic, pretty easy, happy baby. It's kind of a miracle, really. So while I do think it can have an affect, there are a lot of other factors taht come into play. I don't think one meltdown is going to scar him/her for life.

sahm629

I had stressful moments with my pregnancy with my son and he's perfect and very smart.

However, that being said, I think you should get some help. Perhaps try to find a trustworthy counselor if possible?

(((HUGS)))