youthtoday

I think your first point has a lot of merit, not necessarily the second. She should have chosen another night to go out, she obviously knew about the camping trip as your son had been talking about it for two weeks -- I doubt she forgot. But if you trust your wife and she trusts you, there's no need to worry about what she was doing. She was out with girlfriends. Making a big deal about that part and implying she was cheating is going to make a bad situation a whole lot worse and she'll think that's the primary reason you're angry.

She needed to hold down the fort while you had bonding time with your son and it's not unreasonable to ask her not to do that in the future.

mmynedshlp

I am sorry I didn't get that impression from his post. I know in that situation my concern is reaching them in a time of emergency not a call to check to see what they are doing.

did I miss something?

Geoff L

Does she often party with her friends till 3am? My wife does it every few months and I think it's good for her. I don't worry about bad things that happen in those hours as I totally trust her, but I also wait up for her as she does me!
I suspect she without realising it in advance suddenly found herself free of the responsibilities of motherhood for the first time in a very long time and the opportunity to go out with the girls for some fun prevented her from realising the full impact of her decsion. While it doesn't excuse her as she was patently wrong to do it but it is understandable.

I wouldn't be able to sleep under those circumstances, moving your daughter to the tent would have been a good compromise though.

I think her freinds are just ganging up on you!

youthtoday

He mentioned something about what she could have been doing at 3 am and that nothing good happens at that hour. It sounded like a soft implication. I could be reading it wrong. But I'm sure that's not the case with her (actually I don't know the people or the situation so I don't know anything at all), she just felt like having fun, which of course every woman has the right to do just as much as a man does, but IMHO, she certainly chose very poorly about which night to have fun.

Amber

Well, I don't know if an implication was meant to be implied, but he certainly has a valid point. I'd be one ticked off wife if my husband sauntered through the doors at 3 am after telling me he was only going to be hanging with the guys a few hours and leaving me to cancel my son's planned camping trip.

And seriously...what does happen at 3 am? I can pretty much guarantee she wasn't grocery shopping for milk at their local Wal-Mart.

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Fairbeauty29

I think that the two of you should have communicated a little better! I can not believe that you couldn't reach her - that alone would have made me furious!
I think that this is a perfect example of a double standard - your wife woulda been p*ss*d if you did this to her, but she's acting like she did nothing wrong?!
I wouldn't hold a grudge or anything, but she was wrong & acted selfish. You definately did the right thing by going inside, for you can never be too safe these days

I think she should make it up to you by apoligizing to you & your son - first & foremost - and then by letting you have a guys night out with no time limitations