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musicmom · 05-20-2008, 07:05 AM

Meanwhile...............the child got there because the father had sex with a woman.........doesn't sound right. Plus........you know that man did not stay abstinent until he married. come on.

Kaytee · 05-20-2008, 07:08 AM

so what if he didn't (or maybe he did) families that tend to do this are quite religious and I bet a good amount of them were virgins at marriage.
I had sex before marriage ( I would never hide that from my child) BUT of course I want better for her. I would be so happy if she waited till marriage or at least over 18. I smoked pot, I don't want my daughter to. I drove around with no seatbelt on but she better as hell have hers on.

Teresa · 05-20-2008, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by musicmom

Meanwhile...............the child got there because the father had sex with a woman.........doesn't sound right. Plus........you know that man did not stay abstinent until he married. come on.

How do you know? Some people do, even in this day and age. My brother and SIL both did, and they were 32 and 30 when they married.

Cthru · 05-20-2008, 08:19 AM

Whatever happened to good ole chastity belts?
I need to purchase a pair of them myself lol

musicmom · 05-20-2008, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Teresa

How do you know? Some people do, even in this day and age. My brother and SIL both did, and they were 32 and 30 when they married.

I don't know it was a sarcastic generalized conversation/thought.

Music-dad · 05-20-2008, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Cthru

Whatever happened to good ole chastity belts?
I need to purchase a pair of them myself lol

I could pick that lock

meow_173 · 05-20-2008, 12:25 PM

It reminds me of a cult

jtee · 05-20-2008, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Kaytee

I had sex before marriage ( I would never hide that from my child) BUT of course I want better for her. I would be so happy if she waited till marriage or at least over 18.

Children most definitely should wait to have sex until they are mature enough to handle everything comes along with it. Maybe that means they wait until they are 25+.

Personally I don't think it is always healthy to wait until their wedding night to have sex for the first time. For many couples "waiting" can be the right choice, and it becomes a special bond that they share, and likely helps them make it through the rough times that all marriages experience.

I strongly feel that premarital (safe) sex between consenting adults is a good thing, and not a result giving into temptation. It is possible to fall in love with a person who you are sexually incompatible with, and finding that out after getting married will make a marriage very very difficult. I've met one couple who struggled with this issue for 25 years of marriage, and it was their faith (and children) that kept them together, but for them those other influential factors weren't enough, and they divorced in their late 40s. Sexual compatibility in most marriages is critical for the long term success and happiness of a couple. There will always be exceptions, such as married couples who never have sex and are happily married, but it would be very very rare.

Music-dad · 05-20-2008, 01:16 PM

I feel no need to "flaunt" or "parade" my daughter's virginity.

It just seems odd.

budnkota · 05-20-2008, 01:41 PM

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But I wonder if I'm in the minority. I'm not religious. Maybe if I were this would seem less odd.

I also don't think chastity oaths work, as stated in the article. But it is more the weird vibe it gives me that gives me pause.

I agree.. it seems like a parent trying to make claim on a chld's sexuality. It just crosses a line to me. And the fact that joe Simpson did this with Jessica Simpson supports that feeling. He crosses lines beyong what a parent should say and do all the time.

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