ivybendorf

I had no such delusions. I truly believed that I would never marry, have no children, and live quietly in a big house all alone surrounded by my breeding Dobermans. Family had no appeal to me, neither did sex. If I lost my virginity, it would be to a guy who I respected and who was not just trying to get laid. Well, that happened. I took the vow without really thinking about it. All my friends were doing it, including my boyfriend .

As far as I know, two of the girls who took it with me are still pure. Of course, they are nuns now...

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budnkota

that's a very good point. And another thing that concerns me about these kinds of things. These little girls have no idea what's to come - and if she makes a choice to have sex and regrets it later, she may feel even more guilty about it later, because she's "broken a promise." (the fact that it's a promise her father made for her just creeps me out and seems kind of incest-like, if that makes any sense...). It's easy for kids to end up on a vicious cycle.

Music-dad

I was able to hold on to my virginity until I was 12.

jtee

The "Broken Promise" part is probably what concerns me the most. Young girls do not need to be made to feel they let their dads, family, and God, down for what may, or may not, have been a mistake.

In this thread or another thread, I had a posted I worked at Pizza place and the there women talked about their sex lives frequently. Well, at some point they each told their personal story of loosing their virginity. One gal (about 22), confessed to having lost her virginity at 12 and said for years she felt very very guilty for what amounted to just a couple of minutes of sex with a 13 year old boy. The guilt centered around "Good Girls don't have sex" and "Good Girls don't don't have sexual desires". It took her several years to sort it all out and realize that what she did wasn't very smart for a 12 year old girl, but her life didn't spin out control because she had sex one time with a boy keep pressuring her to have sex.

jtee

That pretty young for a guy, but not nothing surprises me anymore after 4 years of college (and a lot of personal confessions) and now a parent of a 12 year old who, along with her girl friends, are boy crazy.

musicmom

I was 20!!!!! That was because I was scared to death of a penis. lol Then I knew they came in smaller packages
I know ya'll wanted to know that didn't ya? lmbo

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Ari2

I think this is a great point, Jtee.

One of my college roommates had sex for the first time at age 13. She ended up feeling very guilty as her father had made it clear that "good" girls don't have sex outside of marriage at any age. So she took this one mistake (and I do think sex at 13 is a big mistake) and centered her self-image around it. Consequently, she became that "bad" girl her dad feared. She is a brilliant person who had ambitions to go to law school, but she ended spending her college years drinking and having one-night stands. She flunked out in our junior year, after having straight As in high school and the first college semester. A few years later, she got engaged to a guy who beat her severely on the night before their scheduled wedding. They never married, thankfully, but it took her a very long time to realize that, while foolish, having sex at 13 shouldn't define you for the rest of your life.

Ari2

I did, Sha'! Thanks!

AmyBelle

I find those balls creepy.

Im not going to try to talk my daughter into waiting untill marriage, I think that will be her choice, the one thing I wish though is that, at whatever age she chooses to have sex, that she come to me first instead of friends her own age who are all giggling and going "OOOOHHH PENIS"

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