gr8mom

I saw this topic on another thread and thought it deserved a thread of it's own. First what does it mean for a wive to be submissive to her husband? Second do you believe in it? I was raised this way but find it very unfair to the woman to have to go along with every decision the man makes even if she doesn't agree with it. I also think that our Savior treated women equally to men. There are no instances in the bible that I can recall that state any differently. If we were meant to be mindless servants then why did he give us independant thought? I understand that Eve brought down submissiveness on womankind when she ate the forbidden fruit but didn't our Savior die for everyones sins, even womens?

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Lissa

I am of the Missouri Synod where women are submissive to men. Does that mean my husband throws me around and tells me what to do? No. I'm very conservative in that I do all the cooking, cleaning, paying for the bills, house upkeep, scheduling of doctor/dentist appointments, etc. My husband never once got up with Oliver when he was an infant. Do I have a hard time with that, certainly. But only because today's society makes it so hard, if not impossible, to be completely submissive.

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Good Wolf

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HappyMomma

As I said on another thread: My mother raised me to be a strong and self-sufficient woman.

I believe that ultimately I am responsible for my own actions and I choose to be proactive in that responsibility. As Dh said, I enjoy an equal partnership.

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gr8mom

My husband seems to be torn between the two. He doesn't want a wife who looks to him for all the answers he wants one who can think for herself and take care of things by herself but at the same time he doesn't want me to work a job and thinks I should do all the housework and caring for the children.

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Lissa

Just because I am submissive to my husband does not mean I am weak. Nobody here knows me obviously, but those who do know me see me as a very strong and independant woman.

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HappyMomma

It would take all the strength I had to allow someone else to always have the final say, so I can see your point.

I think I am just having a hard time with the concept because I just was not raised that way. This should be in interesting discussion.

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Lissa

Well, he doesn't always have the final say. I'm pretty persuasive.

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Good Wolf

I'm sorry to hear that. I do believe there is a benefit in having a stay at home mom as oppossed to sending them to day care. We would do that if we had the financial ability to do so. Once they are in school then it is not only healthy for you to get out of the house to be with other adults, but the extra money doesn't hurt either.

I do however think that no matter how many hours a week he works when he is home he shares an equal amount of responsibility for the kids.

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Dad always thought laughter was the best medicine, which I guess is why several of us died of tuberculosis.

HappyMomma

Absolutely.

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The quickest way for a parent to get a child's attention is to sit down and look comfortable.
~Lane Olinghouse