fallon

me too

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Aponder

Full on spanking out in public isn't necessary but, sometimes ya just gotta smack that little spawn on the backside in order to get their attention.

My older kids never got spanked but, the youngest one... well, he's a little hellion at times and I've spanked him a few times.

Here's some advice for those that do decide to use the spank route as punishment.

1: Always use your bare hand, no belts ot other instruments of torture are allowed. Using such an instrument disassociates the parent from the actual pain they might be causing. If your hand is sore after a spank, you've hit the little spawn too hard and need to adjust your swing next time. The idea is to shock them, not to injure them or keep them from being able to sit down.

2: Never spank as a result of a reflexive action... I recommend the old tried and true 10 count between the offending action and the corporal punishment. If you are going to open up a can of whoopass on your child, you need to take care and make sure you are in control of your own anger first.

3: After you take your 10 count, explain to the child calmly that their behavior is unacceptable and that you'll give them one chance to change their attitude or else they will receive 1, I repeat, 1 solid smack on the butt.

4: If they continue to act the fool... you'll probably have to wrestle them into a proper position... expect kicking and squirming, possibly biting if they are really wild...

5: Once they are in position... that is, bent awkwardly over your knees... give them one more chance and explain that you'd really rather not do this but, they are behaving in a very unacceptable manner and that you will not tolerate it any longer.

6: If they aren't frightened into submission yet... well... it sucks but... you gotta give them one good swat on the butt.

7: Let them alone for a short while to consider what just occurred. If it's your first time spanking the kid... 5 minutes is sufficient.

8: Go and check on them... give them a hug and explain that you really don't like doing that but, it had to be done.

9: Make some ice cream and enjoy your child until the next tantrum.

10: Repeat as needed.

note: I've never had to smack his butt more than twice and, he's still not as afraid of a spank threat as he should be... he tells me I don't do it hard enough and laughs more often than not. I just don't have the heart to beat a child senseless...

Anyway... a quick swat on the arse is all well and good in public but... keep your domestic violence issues back at the trailer.

Xero

Okay, I don't know about the rest of your post, but LOL to that. Haha!!!!

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Aunt

Im glad you dont have the heart to do it "right". To my mind the fact that the threat of a spanking makes kids even more wild, or if it is too gentle is not feared at all is a good reason why it is not an effective or desirable punishment

Dadu2004

You crack me up.

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gr8mom

I think the reason that many people are afraid to spank their kids in public is that they don't know what the people around them believe and they don't want to risk getting CPS called on them

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sikirulai

Well,much as l would love parents to be considerate when they apportion some sense of punishment while dealing with their children, l still believe that there should be a leniency somehow.

Don't spank to abuse the child.Yet, you should not spare the rod and spoil the child in the process.

How about that for a person who cares about the growth of his children?

PennQuaker09

I don't like it. But I am one of those that does not believe in spanking period. I think my decision was probably because of all of the child psychology classes I've had.

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PDeverit

Inherited Bad Habit

Child buttock beating for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is just what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child buttock-beating isn't a good idea. Here are a few good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D., and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

PDeverit

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-beating can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. I don't know if I'm allowed to list organizations or websites here, but a quick internet search with the words "spanking can be sexual abuse" would yield ample testimonies, documentation, etc.

A small handful of those who are trying to educate the public as to why child buttock-beating isn't healthy:

American Academy of Pediatrics

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Center For Effective Discipline

Churches Network For Non-Violence

Archbishop Desmond Tutu

Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment of Children

United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child


Child buttock-beating illegal to date in:

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