Lissa

There could be a whole separate thread on this. You are exactly right.

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jtee

Lissa, I think this is a very common story with a lot girls, they are pressured into having sex before they "Felt" ready to become sexually active.

There is no specific age when a person is ready, for some it is at a very young age (ie middle school) for others it is not until college or after they get married. I met girls in college who were very open about the fact they had a great time having sex at 12-13 years old with older boys and men, with no regrets, but there were far too many other girls who were too young, found themselves in situations where they didn't want to be, and before they knew it they were having sex, and considered it a bad experience. Even in college they were still very angry about it because they could look back and see they were just being used for sex.

jtee

A buddy of mine recently had sex talk with his 13-14 year old daughter. They had it in a car while driving somewhere. He mainly suggested to her that she wait to have sex until she was several years older. He had asked his wife to have the talk with their daughter, his wife kept saying she would, but after 6-9 months it became clear she wasn't going to have "The Talk" with their daughter. Their daugther BTW was honor student, so its not like she was wild girl. My wife has stated to me more than once that even good\nice girls have sex, not just the wild ones.

My buddy was motivated because when he was 16 he dated a 8th grade girl and they had a lot of sex over the course 1 year, and he wanted his daughter to avoid the problems that young girls have when they become sexually active too soon. My buddy never admitted that the got his girl friend pregnant, but he hinted in that direction.

gr8mom

My mom says that's what my granny told her about when her grandmother said it was time she learned the facts of life.

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Lissa

My mom gave me lovely books to read when I got my period. lol

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HappyMomma

Eeek, I remember those.

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Lissa

The Birds and the Bees. lol

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jtee

I understand you might not be OK with it, but I strongly believe a person's "sexuality" is innate, just like their natural hair or eye color. For me anything that is innate to a person as unique individual is not wrong\bad. It just is.

People will argue about the morality of sexual perferences and behavior, and adopt beliefs that they feel are right for them. To me what two consenting adults do in the privacy of their bedroom (and doesn't involve children in adult sexual activities), is not morally wrong. I've know very conserative couples who firmly beleive sex between a man and woman should be in the missonary position only, and point to the bible as to why they feel other sexual activities are morally wrong. For them, that is what works, and I am OK with that, for them, but not everyone else.

Lissa

I think you should create a separate thread on this.

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gr8mom

Guess It's my turn to say what I think about this topic. I think that it should be the parents who talk to their kids about sex but that's it's good that schools teach it because not all parents do. My mom said she learned about sex from her peers and although she wasn't one of those who got pressured into it, I think it happens to a lot of children whose parents never take the time or energy to teach them. What age do you think is appropriate to start teaching sex ed? Seems like their teaching it younger and younger in schools from what I hear.

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