Roan

I think he should have to pay. The idea behind family courts is usually what's in the best interest of the child.

What's in the best interest of this child is that the person who has acted as a father for the last 13 years should continue in that capacity. You don't take over as a caregiver of another human being and then decide it's "too much" of a burden. It's a life time moral commitment and a 18 year legal commitment.

I wonder what prompted DSS to petition to increase the amount of the child support.

April

1dayatatime

I wonder also. I would assume the mother requested it. That's pretty ballsey to me. Have an affair when your husband has had a vasectomy, not use protection against pregnancy or STD's, lie to your husband about it. Then ask for more money to pay for a child that was concieved do to your own error in judgement. Why on earth is her screwup his finacil responsibilty? He was paying when he didn't have to, how dare her ask for more. "best intrest of the child" my ass. The court system is so far away from that idea its absurd. According to the AZ court system the best intrest of the child is to be with the mother and finacily cripple the father. Is it in the best intrest of any child to be with the parent that has a 9 yr history of emotional and physical abuse towards others? The courts do not give a crap about kids unless they are on the verge of death.

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gennifurlynn

I read this and wondered if there is something we don't know, if maybe he told his ex-wife he would always be her father no matter what? Maybe he refused to pay more because he knew his ex-wife didn't need it. I have seen that happen many times. It sucks these things always come down to money. I have been on all sides of divorce and child support at this point, no matter what side you're on it sucks. It sucks being the kid knowing your dad can't pay child support cause he's an alcoholic, it sucked knowing my mom didn't need it but still wanted it (she never took visitation from him though), now my boyfriend pays child support to his ex. They have shared custody and his grandmother watches their son 5 days a week all year. His son is at his mothers house 1 day more than he is here. He still gives him a roof over his head, his own room, clothes and food. It's not like you can only pay for those things only 3 days a week. It's so hard to say what right and wrong. But my opinon is if he acted like her father for 13 years why stop now, its only money.

Xero

That's horrible for someone to try to punish a man that did something he never had to do. He did the right thing by an innocent child, and when his wife leaves him, it comes back at him as a punishment? That is just wrong. Who would do that, knowing full well that kid wasn't his. That's sick. It was nice enough that he forgave her and always raised the girl as his own. No way in hell should he have to pay child support to a woman that screwed him over in every way possible. Poor thing.

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1dayatatime

IMO It's not only money, it's the point. It's about taking responsibility for your own actions. He did his job, he stayed with his lieing cheating wife, he loved the innocent child as his own. He should not be "responsible" for anything more. So now step parents are going to be held responsible for child support? It's the same thing to me. I have yet to see a court make a step parent pay child support.

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Sirk

I couldn't agree more.

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4evaThyMom

In a way, I think he shouldn't HAVE to pay child support. Where is the biological father? They should find him and make him pay for child support. Now here is my other side.....since he agreed to pay child support before, maybe he should continue to pay because he did it already. If he had went to court to not pay child support the first time, he may have not been in this situation if he established the parternity before all of this happened. IDK, it all falls to what's best for the child though and I don't know how the law works fully.

1dayatatime

This one has me heated. I'm not gonna look anymore. Whats in the best intrests of the child is for the mom to quit being a lieing whore and take responsibility for her own actions. He is a step parent to the child he has no rights nor responsibilitys. Having a vagina and giving birth does not make you intitle to extortion for 18+ years. God this topic is really agravating.

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Xero

Umm what's in the best interest of the child is that her "father" be around and be there for her and be a father as much as he can while not being with his ex wife!!! Where do you guys think this money goes? Certainly not to that little girl's heart. Chances are it's going to whatever her mom wants to buy. 9 times out of 10 child support is used for bills or groceries or whatever, not on anything the kid actually notices. A check every other week has nothing to do with a kid's interest, it has everything to do with a mother's interest. SHE LEFT THE AREA!! Meaning he can't see her! He can't be a father to her! That's where that little girl's best interest went out the window. I don't see how money could have anything to do with her best interest. Her mom chased away the only dad she ever had by being a nasty idiot. It's not too much of a burden to be a father for him, it's too much of a burden for him to pay that cheating lying woman more and more to keep the child he loves away from him.

Why doesn't anyone see that paying child support has nothing to do with the child? That check doesn't come in the little girls name. That woman needs to get a damn job and get a life and stop trying to ruin his.

People like her make me sick.

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4evaThyMom

That is so true. Does she work or just hit the streets? They need to do a check on her to find out what she's doing with her life.