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10-04-2007, 08:10 AM
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My ex and I have been divorced for 3 years. I found out, last night, that he is co-sleeping with our youngest child, my 7 yr. old daughter, when the children are at his home. According to my daughter, she falls asleep in her own bed and sometime in the night her father moves her to his bed, where she awakens every morning. I have never suspected anything untoward in his behavior, though he certainly dotes on her far more than he ever did the other two girls, but I can't imagine any rational (or emotionally healthy) reason for his behavior. Am I wrong to be concerned about this? | ||
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10-04-2007, 08:14 AM
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depends? Why are you concerned? If you are concerned of funyn bussiness that isn't really funbny. Then yes you should be VERY concerned. If you are just concerned because he co-sleeps with her then no I wouldn't be. Yo ushould check out all of the other threads about co-sleeping. if you just do a search for co-sleeping you may find a ton!
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10-04-2007, 08:20 AM
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I can see your concern. Have you tried asking your ex about it? I keep coming up with scenerios like maybe he feels safer having her close, but why not all the girls? Has he done this the entire time that you have been divorced or did he just recently start it? | ||
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10-04-2007, 08:22 AM
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I would think if this is newer thing its because he is lonely being divorced now, the youngest is jsut the easiest to get to sleep with him (not in a perverted manner), she can be moved lol
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10-04-2007, 08:50 AM
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Absolutely be concerned! That is weird! Better to talk with him, and your daughters about this and be proactive than risk the alternative. Ignoring this would be like ignoring a fire alarm. | ||
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10-04-2007, 08:55 AM
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I thikn I would first speak to your dd about it before going to him. See how she feels about it before you start trouble with him. It may just be that he's lonely and misses being close to his kids
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10-04-2007, 09:06 AM
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>>>It may just be that he's lonely and misses being close to his kids That is still weird. I could see the kid climbing into her dad's bed....but the other way around? It's just creepy. I don't even see how this would cause trouble with the ex. It's an issue that needs to fix itself immediately. If everything is innocent, he can put her mind at ease by agreeing to not do that anymore on a regular basis. If he's got incestual issues...well...at least he knows she's on to him. Either way, it fixes things. I would also definitely research the issue on the net, and find out good ways to talk with your kids about sexual abuse. Every parent needs to have that talk anyway...now is a good time! It would fall under the same talk as "don't talk to strangers, don't accept candy or follow strangers, don't let them touch you here...etc" They need to know what is acceptable, as well as how to react and who to tell if it does happen. | ||
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10-04-2007, 09:19 AM
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I agree it's a little weird for this to have just started but I hate to jump right to he is abusing his dd. Are there any signs of abuse?
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10-04-2007, 09:20 AM
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I agree if it is perverted then it needs to stop but she said she didn't think it was. I do agree best to talk to him about and the cihld as well
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10-04-2007, 09:20 AM
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Just say you agree with me - it's better to be proactive BEFORE the signs! *waits* | ||
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