8mom

I think anyone should be able to have a child, but I agree that there are so many kids who don't have families who can care for them that it seems like that's a perfect match. Nonetheless, I understand that people want biological kids..

OurPreciousHand

Ooo...that's a tough one. I've been raised to where a child should have one mom and one dad, you know? A child being raised on purpose by one or the other? I don't know. I mean, there are single parents all over the world doing that now..raising their child on their own - and some of them are just fine. I think it's her choice really. I'm not sure if I agree with it though. Single parenting is hard enough - and I feel a child needs a balance of a mom and dad. I started watching this one show called 'Must Love Kids', about single moms dating again and in the first episode, it introduced the mom and their children and man - they definitely have their hands full! I can only imagine doing it alone. (You can actually watch the episode online for free on TLC's website).

I can sort of understand where she's coming from though. I can't WAIT to have children. I'm more excited about having a child than getting married. To have someone love you SO Much, and completely unconditional - just amazing.

Mindy

LOL, I've been trying to think of why the title of the thread is so strange to me, but it's the "on purpose" part. It just strikes me as strange, and I think I've figured out why. I belong to an adoption group, where most of the members are single mothers who have adopted. So yeah, basically the definition of "on purpose" but I guess I'm just wondering why that is so much different than just single parenting?

A woman who's a single parent, chances are, she either divorced, or she left the baby's father, or he left her, or unplanned pregnancy etc.. So basically she didn't plan on being a single mom, but she is. In this other scenario, the women PLANNED to be single mothers. So what is so wrong with that? At least they knew what they were getting into.

Woman with child who suddenly finds herself single parenting.
Woman with child who she adopted and planned on single parenting.

"Is it better or worse than a woman getting knocked up out of wedlock accidentally? Or getting divorced?"

I say it's better, for the simple fact that she didn't go into this blindly, she knew damn well there wouldn't be anyone else to help her.

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