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meow_173

You need to do what is best for you and your child. no amount of our opinons or views can change that. If you need to go....GO!

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heidi

Thank you so very much.

I just found these forums today, and I'll be back!

Ari2

And leaving while your pregnant may be a lot easier legally than after the baby is born. Even with custody, many states require written notification to the other parent of a big move and court intervention if the other parent objects.

HappyMomma

Correct. Decrees in Texas require written notice of any change in location or employment to three different parties and one party can request a "location restriction" in the decree as well.

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Sirk

In South Dakota it was 30 days written notice to the non-custodial parent so they have time to challenge it.


Mine got lost in the mail. Honest.

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HappyMomma

Mine has no forwarding address. :-)

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heidi

Update: Last night he um.. overreacted.. in front of the whole neighborhood over something that could easily have been settled with words. You know, like adults do.

...It was so embarrassing...

A friend was picking me up for a women's support meeting and saw the scene. (The only reason I stayed in his scene was because he'd taken my phone and was trying to leave in the car.) Afterward, she encouraged me to call the police, but I... couldn't. I debated A LOT because it's beyond embarrassing and ridiculous at this point.. also I shouldn't have to be the one to leave during this last week - it should be him I reasoned.

I decided instead of having him arrested, I decided to call him and tell him to take his clothes and leave.. that I don't want to see him again. I also revealed that I am moving soon. After some discussion we decided that he can sleep in the living room and I won't be talking with him. I know - I'm too nice. Plus I ended up talking to him.

So, he stayed and is trying to reconcile the relationship and was surprisingly understanding that I have to go. He thinks that he can still make "us" work and follow me to Illinois after the summer. I don't know how exactly to respond. "Us" won't happen, but maybe his daddy-hood will. I don't want it, but that's just what I want. He claims he's going to stay here for now and get "help". His words sound very sober since I told him I'm leaving. (Not blinded by anger). This sucks. I want to pick another daddy.

Good Wolf

If only life where that easy. Daddy's & Mommy's R Us would make a fortune. I have a child with my X and I would never take her back but I sure wish I had her with my current wife, yadda yadda.

I'm glad you know not to buy into what he is saying. It is the same ol' story we have all heard a thousand times.

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