Sam

we all know what its like when we are taking care of our kids when there are first born. but what about leaving them for the first time to go to work or to go out? The first time without them since they have been born, how hard was it for you?

tater03

I had a real hard time with going back to work. It did get better as it went along but I really never got used to it. I had to quit work when I had my second son because he got that RSV when he was three months old and I was missing so much time that I decided to just stay home. But it is a hard adjustment all around.

jmeyer3131

Completely awful. Her daycare was near my work, and I took walks with the kids at lunch and stopped in other times, too. I wouldn't have done that if it was hard on her when I left, but it wasn't. She loved having me drop in.

Eventually I became a stay-at-home mom because of chronic health problems. As hard as it was to leave my child for work as a baby and toddler, I have to say that I find it even more important to be home now. I'm the one she now tells everything to after school because I'm there to pick her up. (She could take the bus, but our "car time" has been invaluable.) I know her friends. I've had opportunities to get to know her teachers and principal. More importantly, we have remained close. She feels free to share a lot with me and, even better, to ask questions.

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happy2bg33k

It was dreadful. Even when she got to the point where she was just waving goodbye at the door, I still felt like crying. I didn't want someone else to be the one to witness all of the "firsts". When my son was an infant I was lucky enough to have a stay at home mom friend take care of him so he was in a home and I KNEW my friend wouldn't admit to seeing him do things first.

mamab

I got a letter from my employer that I'd taken longer than the FMLA allowed, so I was a sahm from the start. I didn't like leaving my first with anyone. In fact, we never went out without him until he was at least 8 months old. I wouldn't even leave him in the nursery at church. Of course, I was told I wouldn't be able to have kids, so I didn't want to take any chances.

penguinmama

I have been blessed to stay at home with all of mine. With all but #3, their first time away from me & their daddy was with my MIL, who is great with them! The only reason #3 wasn't, was because they had just moved several hours away (when he was just a couple weeks old). We generally take our new babies everywhere with us for the first 6 months or so. I exclusively breastfeed, so I really cannot leave them somewhere because they'd get hungry and not have anything to eat.

Stephanie2377

I have to say, my first time truly away from my son was when I went to get my haircut. He was 4 weeks old, and my Mom stayed with him. He was a very difficult baby (colic and reflux) So, while I wondered how he was, I cherished the time to myself. That is just my honest reply! Now, going back to work was tough. I missed him terribly, and still miss him. However, he does *LOVE* school and his friends. So, at least he is happy (he is almost 2)

violet1

Whew...when my 3 year old was born, we weren't making that much and I had 6 weeks unpaid maternity leave. 6 weeks was all I could afford to take.

We found a sitter who cared for a few children in her home, which was 1,000 times better than a day care and made me feel much more at ease! However, I still did not do well with it.

We arranged things so DH could drop him off, because I just couldn't do it. It was really hard to send him to someone else after only 6 weeks! As he got older, there were times that he would have a meltdown when I left him, even though I knew he loved it there. Sometimes that was hard and I would leave nearly in tears.

Then, there were days where I would show up after work and he wouldn't want to leave. That actually made me kind of happy, because I knew it wasn't about me, but that he really loved it there.

It's not easy, but it does get better!

Sam

I guess we all go through it and its not easy, but in time we eventually do with ease.

fldasha

When my baby was only 3 months old, I was force to leave her to look for a new job. It was really hard. We would always talk about her every night before we go to sleep. I would cry every time I see her picture. I really can't handle to be away from her for a long time. So when I was hired, we decided to just live in the same place. We just get a nanny for her. I am glad we did this, even if its quite expensive. To see my daughter grow up everyday is priceless.