Trina

{{{HUGS}}} This is totally normal. Tell your DH not to take it personally and to hang in there and keep bonding with the baby. It's a phase most babies experience, some more so than others. It's a combination of separation anxiety and preferring her primary caregiver. Yes, very frustrating, but a normal part of development.

Separation anxiety - BabyCenter

Kaytee

I agree with Trina, its just going to take time. If your husband can't be trusted with the baby, then, that is a totally different problem. otherwise, its time to leave Bailey with Daddy for a few hours while you go to a movie or something. He needs to learn to take care of her regardless how she is acting and Bailey will grow to trust dad

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ljmahr

My smallest girl's screams whenever I leave or even go outside. It isn't that they do not love their daddy cuz when he comes home from work they hug and climb all over him.
Here is an idea you could try. When you all are just sitting around in the evenings watching tv or whatever. Sit next to your hubby with the baby and play with her and have hubby play with her. Play a game of tickle your daddy or something like that. Start off by holding her and then maybe eventually she will let daddy hold her while you sit next to her and then maybe one day you would be able to leave the room. Worth a shot right?

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Kaytee

great advise

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button611

Thank you guys for understanding and giving advice instead of criticism-I am going to try those ideas as well as call the pediatrician today and see what they say. It is not that I do not trust my husband with Bailey-he is GREAT with her, she just doesn't want anything to do with him. I will give all those ideas a shot-its worth it right?

Kaytee

I should add that my dd is a momma girl!! Big time!! She could have cared less about daddy. Just now at 2 1/2 is she starting to want him over me sometimes. She is still a mommys girl, but now she will tell me things like "no I want daddy to come get me" or whatever. So I don't think its completely odd

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button611

I am glad to know that there is hope out there that these two may get along. I also want to impress that it is not that they never get along-some days they are buds-but they are few and far between. Last night was a good night with her only throwing a fit as soon as she went to go kiss him goodnight, then she freaked out, but she was very tired and it was way past her bedtime. We will keep working on it and see what happens and thanks for all the suggestions.

lily_angel_love

Why not try having a play date at the park. Go as a family and take one of those rubber balls the bigger ones. Have baby stand by u and the daddy right across from you. First have daddy kick it to you softly on the ground then you kick it back. Then have daddy kick it to you and you hand the ball to baby and have her kick it to daddy, if she kicks it to daddy then have daddy kick it back to her step back a few feet and watch (i understand shes one and may not kick, so roll it. if its cold outside livingrooms work great.) When baby recieves the ball say "good girl now give it to daddy roll/kick the ball to daddy" when daddy gets the ball praise her tell her shes a good girl for playing with daddy. Keep telling her how much fun it is to play with daddy, and as long as everyone is smiling and having fun so will baby. and as much as you can keep scooting back, as much fun as it is to play with her you need to take yourself out of the equation.

lily_angel_love

I may not be mother of the year but i do thrive on my parenting skills. I am not here to critisize you but have one comment and also a suggestion for you. The one thing that stands out is when u said that she is waiting for mommy to come in and save her. If baby needed saved from daddy I dont think that you would be with him. So instead of looking at it like mommy needs to run in and save baby from her daddy think more of it as mommy is assisting with bondind father and daughters realationship. In moments where daddy and baby are having one of their moments walk in the room and see what is going on. Also make sure daddy is getting as much love as baby infront of the baby. Let baby know that it is ok to love daddy. Just as you pick her up for loves when she is in arms reach, hug daddy when he is. If you are walking out of the room and say love you baby girl, in the same breath say love you daddy. Its a little hard but also refer to him as daddy, not mike, steve, or bill... whatever his name may be. Also it doesnt seem like daddy and baby play together very much, but i am sure that mommy plays with baby alot which also makes the baby think mommy is more fun. So maybe you could try to play with them together. Get a ball like a 13' plastic ball and sit down in the living room with the baby and daddy. Roll the ball to daddy and have him roll it to you, then roll it back to daddy and again have him roll it to you, then give the ball to daddy and tell her, "roll the ball to daddy roll it to daddy baby, when she does say YAY BIG GIRL and clap and praise her. then have daddy roll the ball back to baby, their little attention spans arent very long but at one she could probably play for a good 10 minutes. Everytime she rolls the ball to daddy slowly scoot back so it takes you out of the equation and she realizes its just her and daddy playing. Also if you do this in the evening before bath and bed time her and daddy can both go to sleep without any resentment for the other, baby feels like mommy needs to save her from daddy and daddy feels like mommy is giving all her attention to the baby. Just as women feel like the husband puts to much effort into their work sometimes daddys feel like they arent getting any special time with their wives. Im not saying neglect the baby, both mommy and daddy need to love and cherish baby and mommy and baby need to love and cherish dadddy and daddy and baby need to love mommy. Your husband doesnt recent the child he just knows that once upon a time things were easier.. And we all have thought that. No one ever told us how hard parenting was going to be, they just told us how fun kids were, right? And kids are fun, they are the best. they are also time consuming, exhausting, and emotional. Even though they are we all know that we would never change that. No child is the same and no parent is the same, but through trial and error we can all have happy families. Thank you for you time.