Kaytee

you must have, heck my 2 1/2 year old would not remember tomorrow if I told her no desert tomorrow night for hitting me today. She wouldn't even remember she was suppose to have dessert tonight lol.

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Ari2

I think as long as you consistently inform him that this is unacceptable behavior it is fine. You haven't started time-outs, so not doing them last night is not inconsistent.

FTR, yesterday was a low at our house: My daughter threw her cup at every meal (Good-bye, cup!), my son had a complete, Chernobyl-style meltdown when the puzzles he was eating were taken away, and my daughter bit my son hard enough to leave a bruise. You are not alone! If you still feel alone I will send you two kids to keep you company!

FooserX

How about you just pick up one of his toys and put it away? Same deal...he experiences loss.

Kaytee

maybe.... if he is so tired at night that you feel you can't punish him then maybe he needs to go to bed earlier, or maybe he needs to take a later nap. THat might help as well.

I started time outs with Nichole when she was a bout a year old. I never did a full minute though. I would set her down and tell her face to face in a stern but not mean tone "you do not bite mommy, that hurts and is not nice" or whatever. THen set her down and walk about 2 feet away and face away from her. If she cried, so be it, if she rolled over on the floor, so be it, if she got up from that area though, i would just turn around, set her back down and again tell her "you have to sit here because you hurt mommy" then turn around again. I would have her sit there until she would just stay there for 30 seconds or so. Even if she was still crying. Then I would get down to her again, touch her shoulders or whatever and tell her again "that was not nice biting mommy, can you say you are sorry?" she would (well not at 12 months but as soon as she could),. then I would give her hugs and kisses and drop the converstaion. Its over. Clean slate. Now if she did it again, right away (within 10 minutes) no warning, just back to time out. If its been a long time then a warning. (biting hitting, spitting, those got no warnings.

Use your judement on how long he should be there. I never looked at a clock. If she was crying because she was mad, then she stayed, if she was crying the more pathetic cry of "i'm in trouble I want my momy" then it was a bit shorter. You know the difference between the I'm sorry and sad cry and the I'm so mad at you cry!!

And no I never used a "naughty chair" or whatever. Just a quiet place away from the problem. Such as if she was in the kitchen and she hits her frieng, she would go in the other room (with me) for time out. If she throws a toiy, I would remove her from the area with the toys.

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Lissa

Thank you Kaytee!!

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fallon

when my kids get totally out of control in the evening it means it's bed time. Debralyn knows if she acts up she will be in bed early and if Logan is being bad I will put him to bed as early as 6:30

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Kaytee

yes an immediate loss he would correlate

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Kaytee

yep, so has Nichole, 6 actually!!! lol

and no problem Lissa

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FooserX

I never really used early bedtime as a punis..

Lissa

What else am I supposed to do? Throw him on a mat and let him scream when all he really wants is to go to sleep?

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