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Kaytee · 05-15-2008, 06:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Cthru

oh you are bringing back such bad memories.. that could totally have been my post when my son was that age. He's still a handfull, but at 3 at least we're at the point where we can reason and counting 1, 2, 3 does the trick most of the time.

My suggestion my not fly well with AP parents.. but I suggest buying a gate. Put it in an area where if you put him behind it he can't get into any trouble (with us it was his room). Everytime you get to 3.. he goes behind the gate for a few minutes. It sucks big time, the crying will get to you so bad... but within a week i bet you see improvement and won't have to make it to 3.

ETA - I failed to mention the gate needs to be a tall non-scaleable gate. If yours is anything like mine most gates are nothing but a speed bump *lol* I have one I can recommend if you want to go that route.

not suer why you would think that would fly bad with AP parents thats a time out and most AP believe that is the way to go. Now if you said beat the kid, that might get some AP'ers lol

FooserX · 05-15-2008, 06:53 AM

I have two thoughts...

For one, I wouldn't listen to screaming or demands made by him. I didn't start raising Bradley until he was 2 years old, so I'm not sure how far off maturity wise Oliver is, but at 2...Bradley was old enough to start learning he couldn't be throw a tantrum about things and get his way.

I always think it's important to tell kids no from time to time - they need to learn, and get used to, disappointment. That way, when they don't get their way....they know it's not the end of the world.

And lastly...are you spending a lot of quality time with him? He sounds like a kid whose acting out because that's the only way he can get attention. Just because you're "with" him doesn't mean your giving him the attention and fun that he needs.

Just my thoughts! :-)

Kaytee · 05-15-2008, 07:12 AM

great post Fooser, I actually have to give you some good rep for that and I don't share the love very often

Lissa · 05-15-2008, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by FooserX

I have two thoughts...

For one, I wouldn't listen to screaming or demands made by him. I didn't start raising Bradley until he was 2 years old, so I'm not sure how far off maturity wise Oliver is, but at 2...Bradley was old enough to start learning he couldn't be throw a tantrum about things and get his way.

I always think it's important to tell kids no from time to time - they need to learn, and get used to, disappointment. That way, when they don't get their way....they know it's not the end of the world.

And lastly...are you spending a lot of quality time with him? He sounds like a kid whose acting out because that's the only way he can get attention. Just because you're "with" him doesn't mean your giving him the attention and fun that he needs.

Just my thoughts! :-)

Thanks Foos. Great thoughts. Trust me, this kid gets A LOT of quality time. More than most kids I'm sure. We do EVERYTHING together. We go biking, take walks, go to the park and to play groups. Every day we have something planned.

I really don't know why he's acting this way. Maybe it's the terrible 2s approaching. He seems to act out more when he's tired. But he does act out when he's well rested too. And his target is always me. Not his daddy, not other children, just me. I think he's testing his boundaries, seeing what he can get away with.

Did you give Bradley a naughty mat at 2?

FooserX · 05-15-2008, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Lissa

Did you give Bradley a naughty mat at 2?

No, I gave him the "I'm taking away your toys and dessert" mat.

If he's not like this with your husband, maybe it's just you. :-P

Maybe you're just a softie!

fallon · 05-15-2008, 08:05 AM

he's testing you for sure Lissa. Be consistant about punishing him for bad behavior (however works for you) if your in a store or out in public anywhere you can still make him serve time out or leave the place and make him cool off outside. Don't worry about other people looking at you, just handle your bussiness and move on. If he's throwing a fit just to get your attention ignore him until he calms down...then when he has settled tell him very clearly down at his level while loking in his eyes that "Mommy doesn't accept this behavior"

Cthru · 05-15-2008, 08:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Kaytee

not suer why you would think that would fly bad with AP parents thats a time out and most AP believe that is the way to go. Now if you said beat the kid, that might get some AP'ers lol

Just run into a few AP'ers on the net that get very uptight if any discipline is used that involves leaving the child cry for a little bit.

I guess there are different levels of it.. Mine still sleeps with us, but I'm not opposed to letting him cry behind a gate for a few minutes if behavior calls for it.

Cthru · 05-15-2008, 08:22 AM

With mine the naughty mat/chair/step didn't work because he'd just get up and run from it before his time was up.. thus why we started using the gate.

Lissa · 05-15-2008, 08:35 AM

I just wonder why he only picks on me. I'm totally NOT a softie at all. If anybody is a softie, his dad is. His dad gives him everything that he wants. I don't.

FooserX · 05-15-2008, 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Lissa

I just wonder why he only picks on me. I'm totally NOT a softie at all. If anybody is a softie, his dad is. His dad gives him everything that he wants. I don't.

lol...well maybe he thinks he can treat you like crap, and then get babied when dad comes home?

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