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FooserX · 05-16-2008, 08:10 AM

Is he old enough to understand english?

Like...does he understand "no dessert?"

If so...just tell him "It's time for bed, but you just lost desert for tomorrow lunch"

Then, obviously he will have forgotten about it, remind him at lunch what he did, and why he won't be getting it.

Kaytee · 05-16-2008, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by FooserX

Is he old enough to understand english?

Like...does he understand "no dessert?"

If so...just tell him "It's time for bed, but you just lost desert for tomorrow lunch"

Then, obviously he will have forgotten about it, remind him at lunch what he did, and why he won't be getting it.

he is too young for consenquences like that Fooser. Like if it was dinner time, he could lose desert for right then, but you can't say for tomorrow. He is just too young and won't remember why he can't have it or that he even lost it by that point

Kaytee · 05-16-2008, 08:14 AM

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I really, really don't want to start time outs. Especially at bed time. I know that I should have no tolerance. I keep making up excuses for him. I just don't want to hear him scream on the time out mat.

honey I know its hard to hear him scream, but will you listen to him scream at you when he is 12 and is kicking you? You have to deal with it when he is young so that he does't continue to do this when he is older.
I do get its hard, no one wants to punish their children, but you have to show them what is acceptable and what isn't.
What will you do when he goes to the park and bites another child because he is upset?

Trina · 05-16-2008, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Lissa

I really, really don't want to start time outs. Especially at bed time. I know that I should have no tolerance. I keep making up excuses for him. I just don't want to hear him scream on the time out mat.

You don't necessarily have to do a Time Out at bed time. Firmly tell him, "No biting," cut story time short (or whatever your bed time routine is) and put him to bed. My kids hated having story time cut short. That in itself was a punishment and sent the message.

Lissa · 05-16-2008, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Kaytee

he is too young for consenquences like that Fooser. Like if it was dinner time, he could lose desert for right then, but you can't say for tomorrow. He is just too young and won't remember why he can't have it or that he even lost it by that point

I agree. He wouldn't understand that at all.

Kaytee · 05-16-2008, 08:17 AM

yep, time outs are not hte only form of punishment that works. As I said before if he is that tired, then maybe he just needs an earlier bedtime

Lissa · 05-16-2008, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Trina

You don't necessarily have to do a Time Out at bed time. Firmly tell him, "No biting," cut story time short (or whatever your bed time routine is) and put him to bed. My kids hated having story time cut short. That in itself was a punishment and sent the message.

I do tell him no biting and he doesn't stop. The problem with putting him to bed early is he'll be up at the butt crack of dawn.

Lissa · 05-16-2008, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Kaytee

yep, time outs are not hte only form of punishment that works. As I said before if he is that tired, then maybe he just needs an earlier bedtime

Earlier than 7:00?

Music-dad · 05-16-2008, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Kaytee

he is too young for consenquences like that Fooser. Like if it was dinner time, he could lose desert for right then, but you can't say for tomorrow. He is just too young and won't remember why he can't have it or that he even lost it by that point

I must have some kind of freaky weird super kid from another planet, because mine could remember excellent at that age.

Lissa · 05-16-2008, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Kaytee

yep, time outs are not hte only form of punishment that works. As I said before if he is that tired, then maybe he just needs an earlier bedtime

At what age did you start time outs? Did you use a mat or a chair?

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