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Old 05-26-2008, 05:09 PM   #1
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I have an 11 yr. old son who is generally a great kid. I have some serious concerns though. His background is quite complex so let's just start by saying that I am a single parent and his mother does not excercise her visitation rights because she hates responsibility.
My son always wants to control everything. His friends, their games or play, rules, even me. He is never happy. He always seems frustratyed that he cannot reach a certain level of power or control over every situation. He complains, whines, or makes a ton of excuses about every situation. He doesn't seem to care at all of other's feelings. He is constantly losing friends because they simply cannot stand being around a pushy, selfish person. I talk to him about this all of the time and he always lays blame elsewhere. He has burned so many bridges and yet, refuses to take any responsibility for the way things turn out. I love him dearly but he is making me sad and depressed. Living this way is not happiness. Help!!
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I hate to say, but I think this is one of those things he's going to have to figure out the hard way. Soon enough he'll get tired of losing friends and find a way to meet in the middle.
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Can you find a positive female role model for him? He seems to be lashing out. He sounds very angry inside.
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this link might help

EIGHTEEN WAYS TO AVOID POWER STRUGGLES, By Jane Nelsen
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