billyblack

Hi Everyone

My first post.

I live with my fiancee and we have a 6 year old from her first marriage. She still sees her dad every other weekend but when she stays with him they both sleep in the same bed.

Neither me or my fiancee feel comfortable about this, not because he might be doing anything, im sure he's not, we just dont feel this is good for her. Are we making a mountain out of a molehill?? Anybody else experience this? What age do you think is no longer acceptable?

Any comments appreciated.

fallon

I think it's totally OK as long as everyone is sure it's all safe. H eprobably just wants to be close to his little girl. If she's being well taken care of you and her mom should just let them be and be happy that he cares so much for his daughter.

billyblack

Cares so much for his daughter.... Ignoring the fact that he hasn't paid any maintenance since November last year what do you think is an acceptable age for them to stop sleeping together?

Tom

Hi billyblack. Couple of threads discussing this:

Co-sleeping with your child
How old is too old to sleep with your kid

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fallon

I personally think that that would be up to the child. when she doesn't want to sleep in the same bed as her dad anymore she shouldn't. Also care shouldn't be measured in dollars. If he isn't paying his support that's a different issue all together, in your first post you were only asking what we thought and made it sound like that was your only issue with him. If he was paying his support would you still have concern over their sleeping arrangement. Also I don't know about where you live but here it is against the law to not pay court ordered support so the child's mother should take him back to court.

P.S. notice in the first post I said IF the child is being well taken care of

Kaytee

I agree with everyone else here. First go check out the other threads. The first one is newer.
Second if this child is physically being taken care of by the father and physically well, then there is nothing wrong with a 6 year old sleeping with her dad. Now if she becomes uncomfortable and he "makes" her then that would be wrong.
Most kids will stop sleeping with their parents around this age, so most likely it will be stopping soon and those are great memories for both the child and the father.

About the financial aspect: again I agree with Fallon, you did not ask about financial relationships in your first post. The two have nothing to do with each other.

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