WhoCares

I am strongly against the crazy idea that a brother and a sister shouldn't be sharing a room. All the world except USA has boys and girls sharing rooms and they have no problems, neither with privacy nor with sexuality.
My 9yo son and 8yo daughter share a room. 2yo Kylie has her own room until the twins get born. When the twins are born, she would have her own room for a few more weeks and then she will share her room with the newborn boys.
I grew up sharing a room with my brother and we didn't have any problems all our life. I know many brothers and sisters who share a room and I find it normal. It's ridiculous to think that 2 girls (or 2 boys) will have more privacy sharing a room than a boy and a girl would. Also, sharing a room helps the kids learn about sharing, not being selfish, respect for others, tolerance, etc. They become friends later (as we assume it's normal for kids, no matter their sex, to fight until their teen years). My brother and I are still close friends, even though he moved out 6 years ago (now he is 27, I'm 24) and I moved out a year after him.
What are your opinions about brothers and sisters sharing a room and if you disagree, would you explain in details why?

Skyburning

If I were in your situation and I needed my kids to share rooms I would at least pair the boys together and the girls together.

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WhoCares

I don't think a 9yo boy would be thrilled to share a room with newborn babies. I prefer them to be close ages when sharing a room because if an infant and a teenager share a room, the teenager would be ashamed to invite friends in his/her room because of the infant's toys for example. Also, I don't raise my children being sexists and I don't see anything wrong with boy and girl sharing a room. What wrong did you see?

fallon

my 6 yr old daughter and 17 month old son share a room...it works for us so I don't much care what others think about it

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1dayatatime

I've had the kids share a room too and it was not a big deal. Mine are 5 and 19mon. I do think that just for legistics as the kids get older it may make more sense to divide by sex. Its a tuff situation with such a big age gap. I just think all the girl stuff in one room all the boy stuff in another. Altimatly I would just ask the kids what they think then it would be a non issue. Shouldn't matter what others think unless they are planning to buy you a bigger house so all the kids can have their own room. lol

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Father_0f_6

I shared a room with my sister up until I was about 3. Then my older brother (older by 8 years) and I shared a room. He wanted to share a room with me and my sister (twin) wanted to share a room with our older sister.

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Dadu2004

My daugher may be facing the same situation with her 8 year old brother (she's 4) at my ex-wife's house. I'm not exactly sure how I feel about it since they haven't actually begun sharing yet, but at this point I don't really have a problem with it. When he begins to hit puberty, then I think I would consider it unacceptable.

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HappyMomma

Personally, I see no problem with siblings sharing rooms.... they are siblings.

I have recently read something regarding CPS having somekind of guidelines on opposites sexes sharing rooms, so you may want to check that out in your state (if you are in the US.)

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mom2many

This is VERY true, most states have a cut off age of 5, for boy/girl room sharing.


I have no issue with them sharing, I have 2 teen girls in one room, 2 teens boys in another, and then my 7 year old son, 4 year old DD and 2 year old son in one room, the two older ones usually sleep togather on the same bed, they like it so I have no issue with it. Next year my 7 year old will move in with his then 17 year old brother, and it will go down the line until all three of the little ones eventaully end up with their own room....maybe, I might turn one room into a family room.

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Skyburning

To the first bolded thing..I don't think the 9 yo old would be thrilled about sharing either buuuut

To the second bolded thing...if you have a boy/girl pair in the same room it's not conducive to having friends come over either. Especially not after the age of puberty.

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