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Kaytee · 08-23-2007, 06:54 AM

It is scary, how fast they grow up. A serious problem is lack of supervision with our children. Not individual either, if you watch your child carefully and they spend time with someone who is not supervised, things get said. Kind of like that one thread taht talks about the 6 year old poll dancing. Heck I didn't know what poll dancing was till I was probably 12 and even then I didn't do it!!

JackS · 08-25-2007, 03:11 PM

Good day, I just want to say that my 12 yr old started experimenting with sex this summer and it has not been an easy situation. We discovered she has a strong desire to become pregnant. If there is any good side, she doesn’t particularly enjoy having sex. Sex is just the way for her to become pregnant, so she learned like sex for that reason. This is not the fun part of being of having kids. Very stressful L

Kaytee · 08-25-2007, 03:16 PM

I bet it is. Iwould make sure your child does not get to be around boys at all unless very highly supervised. I would also want to find out what is causing her to have these feelings of wnating a child

JackS · 08-25-2007, 03:40 PM

Thank you Kaytee, we hope that we have put an end to it by doing some of what you suggested. RC is a very maternal kind of a 12 yr old, loves being around little kids, babysitting, especially babies. Hate to put an end to those activities, but if anything that seems where the motivation comes from. As guy, I can't even begin to understand those kinds of issues.

sandmike123 · 09-01-2007, 06:13 AM

Wow this is the first I read this post. I am not sure how I missed up until this point. I haven't read all the replies so if I am repeating something that has already been said or done I am sorry.
I definitely think you did the right thing by providing birth control for your daughter. So many parents would just bury their heads in the sand and think that it wouldn't happen again, but you guys took an active approach to it and you deserve a huge applause for that. That part that would worry me is the fact that she liked having "a part of him with her" afterwards. This would make me very afraid that she would not use the birth control even though it is provided for her.

Providing her with all the tools and information like you have is the best that any parent can do. It may be useful if you know a teen who got pregnant and has a baby to talk with her so she can see how much having a child really changes your life. Especially being a child herself. sometimes the parents words fall on deaf ears and it may help hearing it from someone a little closer to her age. Just a thought...

Kaytee · 09-01-2007, 08:05 AM

Good ideas. Might want to talk to a pastor or priest at your church (assuming you go, lol) and see if they can direct you into talking to a teeanager with a child

Anna78 · 09-03-2007, 11:31 AM

Jack S, I think that sandmikes suggestion is a really great idea. I got pregnant at 21, and I know that if I had realized how difficult having a child would have been at that age (granted its no way near as young as 12), I would definitely have waited to have children.

Chola82 · 09-04-2007, 04:55 PM

I really didn't get too far in reading all of this, just a couple replies, but I have to say, you are being a wonderful father right now. You are being logical and rational and I know that my father would not have been that way when I started having sex and I was 16. Actally my father was irate in saying "If I ever caught you..." So forth and so on, threatening to put my then boyfriend, now husband in jail. So we really got the Sex is bad message....

Anyway, keep on being the best dad you can be. Be there for her and let her know that you're not angry, just concerned. You would be surprized, 11 is much more mature than we give credit for.

I'm just completly in awe of you at this moment in time.

jtee · 09-05-2007, 02:32 PM

Thanks everyone for the comments and support.

FooserX · 09-05-2007, 02:38 PM

I still don't get why you keep talking about your daughters "feelings."

Isn't it up to you to make sure she isn't alone with boys, especially this boyfriend of hers?

Who cares if she misses sex...she shouldn't even be in a position to have it for quite some time.

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