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10-20-2007, 01:52 PM
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The fact that our daughter had sex should not be perceived as typical or a trend. Last edited by jtee : 06-15-2008 at 10:47 PM. | ||
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10-20-2007, 02:09 PM
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I have seen it coming for a while though. Where we live a 14 year old girl asked me for help to tell her mom that she had been having sex. Now I didn't know until she asked for help that she had been but she felt something was wrong (she had an STD) and was scared. I went with her to tell her mom and got more of a shock because her partner was a 25 year old man whom I trusted around my kids (though he was never alone with them.) Isabella is quite mature for her age and so I get worried she will experiment. What I have learned from this post is that there are things I should discuss more in depth with her.
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10-20-2007, 02:55 PM
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Jenilouise, yes it is better than you educate your daughter about sex than learn on her own. Our mistake was not seeing she was ready for more advanced conversations about sex. We know our daughter pretty well, and what happened was foreseeable. My wife thought our daughter wouldn't be tempted to experiment with sex for another 1-2 years, thus didn't see any need to have more advanced conversations with her. My wife had planned to talk with her more about sex this summer before she started middle school, but our daughter got far ahead of us in this area. My wife has assured me that sex currently doesn't rank very high on our daughter priority list right now with all that she has going on. If she were to meet a boy she found very attractive, sex likely would rise back up to the top pretty quickly without a lot of advance notice. Despite her experience with sex, our daughter still has the mental and emotional development typical of most girls her age. She's not wishing she could hang out with an older growd. She seems quite content stay within her peer group right now. | ||
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10-20-2007, 03:32 PM
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Kids are growing up way too fast nowadays. No-one can blame you for thinking you had more time. As parents we do the best we can.
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11-22-2007, 07:19 PM
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I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. Please do your best to be open, honest, and blunt with her. My husband's niece just today gave birth by C section to a baby girl. She's been 15 years old for two months. The father has been 15 for one month. They are playing with fire younger and younger these days. | ||
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