Chickita

Hey, I'm new here

I have 2 kids, 5 yrs and almost 6 months. I am 24, and I have PPD. Just looking for a support forum to help me get through all this.

Thanks!

~Chickita

Chickita

After reading a couple threads, I also wanted to get advice.

My daughter is 5, she has totally lost motivation to do anything, she is sloooow when I ask her to do anything, its almost as if she has become extremely lazy. She has also become very very loud and obnoxious. Sometimes it's really hard to deal with, and we fight a lot. Today she told me she didn't love me.

She has suffered through a lot of Post Traumatic Stress in the past 2 years (watch one of our dogs get killed, I miscarried, she watched her grandfather die in the hospital, a kitten was killed, we woke up to another of our dogs passed away in its crate {he was sick}, we moved 2000km away from everything she knows, etc). And I KNOW that probably has a lot to do with it.

She used to be an ABSOLUTE angel, up until the past year or two.

My son, 6 months, has had a rough start to life. He had pyloric stenosis and needed sugery at 3 weeks of age.

Since then, I've spoiled him I guess. He is fussy alot, tries to bite me (with an angry tone to his whine), etc.

My husband lives out of town all week and I am alone with the kids and 3 dogs. I am in a town where I don't know anyone and my depression is preventing me from meeting new people or leaving the house for that matter. I'm really quite alone and I just don't know what to do with the kids. I know my problems are reflecting on my daughter, but her attitude and behavior doesn't help and in return, my problems get attitude from her.

I just feel frustrated, overwhelmed, depressed, angry, etc. I am in counselling, but I think I just need a bit more.

Thanks all

Kaytee

Bless you. I am so sorry on many levels. First you need to make sure that your PPD is under check. Are you on medication or anyhting for it? Please go to a doc if you haven't already

On your daughter, ( i have no older kids so take my advise for that) but she needs to learn to respect you. Now if you are spending all of your attention on your son then maybe that is why she is acting out, plus all the other issues she has dealt with this year. Spending more time with her may be soemthing that will help every one out.

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jtee

Chickita, PPD can become very serious. Online forums are good for support, encouragement, and general advice, but you really should get medical care immediately, not only for your well being, but for the well being of your children. PPD is not something a person should be handling alone even after seeing a doctor, it can esclate too quickly into a life threatening problem.

Chickita

I am under medical care, I am on anti-depressants and I mentioned I am going to counselling. I am just alone, I need people to talk to. My children are not in danger and no I will not hurt myself or anyone else.

I am trying not to focus all my attention on the baby, and at the same time, I am just SO tired! He isn't sleeping through the night yet.

I try REALLY REALLY hard to be consitant with her, and I even put her in summer bible camp. But its like no matter what I do, she just isn't working with me here, and I know, I know, she's 5, but she really used to be sooooo good! The only thing that works is "I'm going to call Daddy" and I hate that I have to use that.

It wouldnt suprise me if she had ADD, I have it as well. Just makes things a bit more tougher to deal with, but if I knew for certain it was that, I could work with it. I also try not to give her sugar, I find she's worse with it.

My family doesn't get it either, they tell me they have no sympathy for me (they've been there, done that), and my husband although he helps me with the kids and the housework on the weekends, he doesnt really get it either.

So that's why I'm here, I just need some kindness and gentle advice.

Thanks all