1dayatatime

What are your thoughts on the frequency of phone calls to the other parent from the child? Twice a week, everyday, by appointment? My personal opinion is that my 4yo stepdaughter can call myself or her dad at least once everyday. We both work from home so that's not an issue. The mom wants my DH to set an appointment for phone calls twice a week. We recently bought my DD an LG Migo phone as her mom "said" she did not have a phone for about three weeks. DD can only call four preprogramed numbers. Since we dropped off DD to her mom the phone has been turned off. Mom had previously given the ok on two occasions to get the phone. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Am I completely off base to think this is a crap situation?

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hwnorth

Divorce and separation have nothing to do with a child, and a parent should do everything they can to minimize that impact ... therefore a child should have the right to call their parents any time they want .. they should NEVER be restricted from that (baring use for manipulation)

Music-dad

Although not an issue for me, I have to agree with MM and HW, why should there be a frequency cap?...I just don't get it.

If it's long distance they can chat online, or call collect to the parent willing to accept the charges.

.:Kalli Rae:.

I agree with what has been said. There shouldn't be a cap and the kids need to talk to the other parent as often as they wish.

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ljmahr

I agree also. It sound like the mom is just trying to make things difficult and use this as some sort of revenge. The only thing I can say is how horrible. I would definitely try to figure something out to fix the problem although i do not know how to go about it without making things worse. Good luck!

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spankys3304

When it comes to a child communicating with their parent there should never be a time they shold be restricted. If my DD wants to call Daddy, I hand her the phone and help her dial. Same with him, she called me at work last week and talked to everyone in my department twice besides talking to me.

1dayatatime

Thanks everyone. I knew I wasn't crazy. My DH called moms new house number and got to speak briefly with DD. It was so sad. She starts to say I lost the phone then she says wait I know where its at... it's in mommys big bag. The she goes on to actually whisper " I wanted to call you." It's heartbreaking. I wish there was anything I could do. What if DD gets in trouble for telling her dad where the phone is? The next custody hearing is in June. I'm wondering if sending a letter to the judge about the phone issue with copies of her email request for scheduled phone calls twice a week would do any good. So far the legal system has run us right over. It's a mommy state.

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Music-dad

Nah 1Day, you're not crazy, but the rest of us are, and we'll make you crazy in time...

1dayatatime

Thanks for the reassurance. You have to be at least a little crazy to be a parent or you'd loss your mind. BTW have you seen mine? It's small and greyish, with lots of wrinkles.....

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