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Nikita · 06-16-2008, 01:54 PM

I have an easy time imagining my parents didn't have sex. I was adopted!

Kaytee · 06-16-2008, 02:09 PM

Trina · 06-16-2008, 02:35 PM

The thought of my parents having sex never bothered me. Maybe in the very beginning when I first figured it all out, but that was short lived. My parents were always openly affectionate (hugs, kisses, cuddling) and taught us that sex is a special thing for adults who are in love.

FooserX · 06-16-2008, 02:43 PM

Wouldn't the topic of sex be something you'd want to talk with the other parent about first, so you both agree on how to approach the situation?

Teresa · 06-17-2008, 05:46 AM

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Originally Posted by HappyMomma

Good link, Kaytee.

I especially agree with this:

When should parents sit kids down for that all-important "birds and bees" talk?
Actually, never! Learning about sex should not occur in one all-or-nothing session. It should be more of an unfolding process, one in which kids learn, over time, what they need to know. Questions should be answered as they arise so that kids' natural curiosity is satisfied as they mature.

I agree with this too. Most of my relatives thought I was NUTS for talking to my children about it from the time they were 3 or 4 years old, in age appropriate time, and built on it from there.....but it worked for us!!!

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Originally Posted by FooserX

Wouldn't the topic of sex be something you'd want to talk with the other parent about first, so you both agree on how to approach the situation?

Good point....but it also depends on just HOW involved the other parent actually is in the day to day life of the child.

Trina · 06-17-2008, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Teresa

Good point....but it also depends on just HOW involved the other parent actually is in the day to day life of the child.

I agree. My DH is a very good and active father, but when it comes to genital and sex talk with the kids he clams right up and doesn't know what to say. LOL! These topics were very taboo in his family when he was growing up. I find it interesting that he has no inhibitions in the bedroom with me, but when it comes to talking about this stuff with the kids he gets all embarrassed. For this reason, although we provide a united front, I do most of the talking when it comes to these topics.

Claire64 · 06-17-2008, 11:23 AM

I think that at 8, she doesn't need all the details. I recently had a talk with my 9 year old and told him that the woman has the egg, the man has the sperm and when they get married and want a baby, the man gives his sperm to the woman.

That's enough for him for now, I don't think we told the older boys the "whole story" until they were about 11.

musicmom · 06-17-2008, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Claire64

I think that at 8, she doesn't need all the details. I recently had a talk with my 9 year old and told him that the woman has the egg, the man has the sperm and when they get married and want a baby, the man gives his sperm to the woman.

That's enough for him for now, I don't think we told the older boys the "whole story" until they were about 11.

LMAO my child would have said "gives it to her in what?" and waited for the answer. I just explain things medically to them. They seem to be fine with that.

Claire64 · 06-17-2008, 03:03 PM

LOL Musicmom, my older boys were curious like that too, but Landon didn't really seem very interested. He only really asked me why there had to be a mom and a dad, so I left it at that.

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