mom2many

Glad to hear it may work itself out naturally, that always makes it easier! And we don't have to feel like ogres !

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Mindy

Well I think if he really likes her, he will get over the fact that he can't take her out, and I agree 15 is too young.

I would like to say though, it's not totally innapropriate that he's 18 and she's 15, no I wouldn't let them "go out" together... But 20 and 23 is the same thing... Of course at the time it's not and there is a huge difference between those ages. But it can work.

And your not letting them leave the house together will actually be good, because that way you will find out just how much he actually likes her... If he disappears, then he isn't worth it, and she will learn a great lesson.

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Dadu2004

Nicely said Mindy.

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8mom

no. 18 is a lot older than 15, and 15 is just so young... I don't know an easy way to handle this but I'd try and steer them away from one another as best you can.

Xero

No way for me, 90% of 18yr old boys are more than interested in sex and can persuade a 15yr old into also being interested. Do you know why teenagers get so adamant about getting away from the house to do things? So they can do things they don't want their parents to see them doing. I'm young! I remember it. I was having sex at 15 or 16 and if people had been paying attention to me, I would not have done it and now that I'm older I kind of wish it hadn't happened that way. Just trust me, that boy is losing interest in her because he's realizing he's not going to be able to do things you wouldn't want him to be doing with her, since you'll always be watching. =) That right there shows you his true colors. She'll probably hate you for it, but you know you're doing the right thing.

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AmyBelle

A 15 year old girl cant be interested in sex all on her own?

Heck, something must have been wrong with me when I was a teenager...

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Xero

Well yeah, sure she can. I guess I was. Sorry, that was kind of a dumb comment. I guess I meant if you thought your daughter wasn't interested already, trust me he'll get her interested. Or if she was interested, he's DENITELY interested, so you know.

Not ALL 15yr olds are interested in sex, though. My little sisters were/are good kids, and weren't interested at that age, and still are not. (at least not interested in having sex anyway, you know what I mean.)

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Firefly4698

When I was a teenager, most of my boyfriends were 2 to 3 years older then I was. My parents had pretty fair dating rules, like at first we had to do group dates, with other couples. No alone dates! Truth is, if you don't let them go out with your knowledge, they may find ways to hang out alone when you don't know. I was a bad teenager and I know that I found ways to hang out with my boyfriends when my parents wouldn't let me go out. I would much rather know what my kid is doing then not. I think even a small comprimise on this will help prevent the sneaking around.

TAR

This is such a hard issue, because it really depends on the individuals themselves. I met my soon to be husband when I was 13 he was 17. Now we didn't become "girlfriend" "boyfriend" untill I was 14 and he was 18. We had our ups and downs and we had the people in our (mostly mine) life that didn't want us together (fear of I would get hurt, well i'll be honest he has hurt me and I have hurt him - we can't stop that at any age). But you know no matter what they did or said to keep me from him I found a way to see him. Now here we are I'm 25 he's 29 and I'm due with our 3 child in Aug, we own our home and were getting married in Feb 2009. Do we have our ups and downs? I think everyone in a relationship can answer that question, of course we always did and you know what we always will, but our relationships at any age make us who we are and though your daughter may be young if she is mature enough to handle a relationship (with any age boy)she should experience it (yes you'll have to be nosie parent and sometimes the person she hates) But lets all be honest a relationship at any age is hard! We all get hurt sometime and that is life.

1dayatatime

No. I don't know about your state, and not all "dating" includes sex, but consider statutory rape. It's best just to avoid that whole situation.

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