rworell

Reason I ask is he is 18. He is experienced and has dated other girls. He always has been able to drive the girls he has dated to movies or beach or what ever. My daughter is only allowed to have him over the house. "period". Its starting to erritate the boy now and he really wants to be able to go places with her. Because we don't allow it, he is kind of backing off from her and now my daughter is so upset lately. She feels that she should be able to go on dates with him. I just don't know what to do. I'm her dad and I'm such a stick in the mud about her dating anyways, all we do is end up fighting about it.
He is a pretty good kid....I just don't totally trust him. But maybe just going to the movies occasionally would be better for both of them. I don't like her getting into a car with some one either.

I just don't know what to do. Its putting a strain on my family as well, becasue I won't budge and my wife and I don't agree on this together, except not letting her get into a car with him.

Please help. Your advice is so welcomed!!!!

Take care,
Rich

Cthru

My opinion, no. No way would I let my 15yr olds date someone that was 18. There is a huge difference between 15 and 18, and as much as it will crush her - she will get over it.

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meow_173

I totaly agree with Cthru.

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fallon

I agree as well. I don't think age should influnce a relationship between adults but like Cthru said, there is a huge difference between 15 and 18.
However...I don't know your daughter or this boy. If you feel in your heart that she is mature enough to handle something like dating then I think you should let her go. Be very clear with both of them on the rules, home right after the show and show you the ticket stubs, whatever you think is acceptable. First time the rules are broken or she shows up late pull the plug on the dating thing until she's old enough to handle this

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Nikita

I agree as well. And one thing that stood out in your post, you mentioned he is backing off because you won't let her date. Maybe this is something to point out to your daughter. If he was really interested in her as a person, he wouldn't leave her just because he had to wait to take her out on a real date.

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Sirk

I know the things I was doing with older boys when I was 15.


So no.

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mom2many

NO, I am very firm when it comes to dating, none until 16, period. And then it will be supervised (to an extent) and the age difference can only be one year older or younger (depends on whether it is my son or DD's).

A good example would be, my son who is 15 was interested in a girl, and vice versa, had even been asked to a dance but I said no, no way, I had also seen said girl with another boy, and at 15, this weekend she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. They are to young to really understand the risk's that are involved.

As a side note, the boy could be charged with stautory(sp?) rape, charges can be brought up by anybody, protect him and your DD. Good luck, sometimes the hardest thing a parent can do is to do something "for their own good".

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rworell

Thanks so much for your honesty, I too feel this way. I'm pretty sure its over anyways between them...He was supposed to come over last night to hang out with my daughter to watch a movie and never showed. which doesn't suprise me.
My daughter I think is the one pursuing him. Yet I'm pretty sure she is sick of playing the fool...phewwwww....I think I dodged this one. Now on to the next teenage issue. hahaha....Anyways thanks to you all for your kind words and advice.

Rich.

Teresa

I don't let my fifteen year olds date, so that's not an issue. They can do group things, with adult supervision, but nothing more. They have to be at LEAST sixteen to go on one on one dates, and that depends on their level of maturity and responsibility. At that point, I would allow dating an eighteen year old, but no older.

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meow_173

Yea, i wasn't allowed to date until i was 16

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