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teenager17 · 03-02-2008, 07:08 PM

What would do if you discovered incontrovertible proof that your, 17 or 18 year old son or daughter, a senior in high school, was drinking, and you had caught them a few times earlier as well? Just wondering what some parent's thoughts were on this issue.

Ari2 · 03-02-2008, 09:00 PM

I'd want to know 1) drinking what; 2) how much; 3) how often; 4) under what circumstances; and 5) why.

jtee · 03-02-2008, 09:35 PM

We let our daughter sample our alcoholic drinks on occasions, it makes alcohol less of a forbidden fruit.

Teresa · 03-03-2008, 04:56 AM

Same as JTee, we allow sips from an early age. After 16, we allow half glasses of wine with dinner. After 18, we allow the same privileges as Mom and Dad, with the same restrictions...after the first drink, you don't get to leave the house till morning, and drinking is always in moderation. Also, no one under 21 who is not a family member is allowed to drink in our home.

musicmom · 03-03-2008, 05:29 AM

Wow. I can not believe parents would do that. It doesn't have to be a forbidden fruit even without them drinking it. Have you guys never heard of alcoholism? Where do you think it begins? I would never set my kids up drinking.

Teresa · 03-03-2008, 05:35 AM

To each their own.....it's how my parents taught me about responsible drinking, and it's working for us here.

Aunt · 03-03-2008, 05:52 AM

Prohibition never works. In fact germany and France have legal drinking ages of 16 and statistically no greater likelihood of alcoholism mm. But I know that being allowed to drink sensibly with family did not stop the mid adolescent binge drinking phase. However because my parents were OK with the fact that I would occasionally have a few with my friends one thing I never ever did was drink drive or get in the car with someone who had. Because I knew they would come and get me if need be. I had friends with prohibitionist parents who took risks and got rides from drinkers to fool mum & dad. i would not want this for any kid.

musicmom · 03-03-2008, 06:14 AM

I hope my children can come to me. I think drinking is just part of life and they are going to experiment with it but I would never allow my kids to drink at our home unless they were of age.
Not alot of people have to deal with alcoholism in their family as well so I'm extra cautious and will educate my children as much as possible without seeming like a matyr.

Teresa · 03-03-2008, 06:17 AM

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Originally Posted by musicmom

I hope my children can come to me. I think drinking is just part of life and they are going to experiment with it but I would never allow my kids to drink at our home unless they were of age.
Not alot of people have to deal with alcoholism in their family as well so I'm extra cautious and will educate my children as much as possible without seeming like a matyr.

In Ohio, there is no "of age" as long as the alcohol is provided by parents to their own child, whether in our home or in a public place. They just can't buy it for themselves until they are 21.

fallon · 03-03-2008, 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Teresa

Same as JTee, we allow sips from an early age. After 16, we allow half glasses of wine with dinner. After 18, we allow the same privileges as Mom and Dad, with the same restrictions...after the first drink, you don't get to leave the house till morning, and drinking is always in moderation. Also, no one under 21 who is not a family member is allowed to drink in our home.

I agree with Tresea on this one 100%

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