FooserX

>>>My bf and i have been together since the end of gr.11 (so i was 17) and here we are, almost 6 years later with a 20 month old. I think thats pretty committed.

6 whole years!!?!? WOW!!!

Call Guiness!

You guys could have a fight, or fall for someone else, any number of things could happen....which would result in a split...leaving your daughter in a broken home. You're just playing married.

At least you're older than the children in question...they are 15 and 16!

Even if they don't have a baby...or get an STD...they still learned that sex is just something casual to be shared with bfs and gfs. Eventually, babies happen. Heck, half the parents on this forum have kids from ex's...why? Uh...because they had premarital sex in a non-committed relationship...or they picked the wrong man to marry in the first place.

The kids are the ones who have to deal with the messed up home...no dad or mom...situations like this are how it all starts. It's all so harmless in the beginning...*sarcasm*...let's have open communication and honesty...*sarcasm*...what a great relationship the mom and kid have *sarcasm*...ugh!

meow_173

You're Absolutly right. We could have a fight and end it. We could meet someone else and that could end it. But before throwing that first stone, you should know that we were going to get married, but things happened backwards. Luke came before we finished school (university) so any plans of getting married or any money for that matter was put on hold. I had a few courses left, and my bf wanted to get his CA before we got married, and still does so that we can afford it. Our relationship has gone through hell an back, and yet we make it work. How? Through love? ignorance? Who knows, but i am happy when i am with him, and he is happy when he is with me, and frankly that means the world to both of us. If you think about it, people today are with their partner for a year, maybe two get married, and then are divorced by year four. So i think we are doing just fine. The time for us to get married will come eventually.

And again you're right! 15 and 16 year olds really shouldn't be having sex, but the reality of it all is that they are. So are kids younger then them. So we as parents and teachers need to teach our kids the consequences of having sex. Show them we are concerned but love them none the less. And if they choose to have sex, put girls on the pill, or teach them of condoms, because no matter how much you instill into kids heads that "sex before marriage is wrong!" if they want to do it, they will. And unfortunatly thats reality!

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FooserX

Your situation is exactly one of the reasons why it's such a horrible idea to be encouraging this sexual behavior from such young kids.

Your life plans had to be put on hold.

They are risking changes to their life, which in turn affects the kid. Parents have to work full time to pay for baby, baby has to be raised by other people, etc.

There is not one good thing that comes from these two kids having sex. NOT ONE! lol

Yet here this guy is defending the mom...why?

Because he has to in order to make himself look right too. They're both in the wrong...and I guess only a baby is going to make them see it. No contraception is 100%...have fun playing with fire for the sake of "having your kids like you." It's not the parents priority to have kids like your rules.

meow_173

Who's defending who? i must have missed something lol.....

So my plans of having a nice big family wedding have been put on hold. So what? I have a beautiful son whom my bf and i Love dearly and instead of a huge costly wedding, we had a great big 1st birthday party last year with everyone on both sides of the family. But my situation is alittle different than your idea of a "run of the mill" person having a baby. The bf has graduated from university, working at an accounting firm and is striving for his CA this september. I work part time, and my parents or his watch luke on the days that we both work. i don't see how this affects luke any, seeing that 95 % of the time i'm at home with him.

Anyway, back to the situation at hand, OBVIOUSLY nothing great will come from two kids having sex. I konw that, you know that, the parents know that, they dont. And we all know why, because they are young and shouldnt' be having sex. But like i said, the world is a different place, and it keeps changing. You can't keep kids from having sex, unles you lock them in their room 24/7 and homeschool them (exageration obvi.) that why you need to teach kids about sex, and how to protect themselves, and let them know that you do not want them to have sex at such a young age.

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Good Wolf

Although I started having sex when I was 16 I do agree with you that no good can come out of kids having sex.

I do however think the above comment is insulting and ignorant. You can wait until your 30 years old to get married, have sex, and start a family and still end up getting a divorce for a number of reasons.

I certainly hope that statement doesn't come back and bite you in the arse one day. You never know what the future may bring and no matter how secure you are in your relationship it can all be turned upside down over night no matter how strong it might be. You can lie to yourself and say that your love is strong enough to overcome anything but simple statistic/history/human nature dictates otherwise.

I love my wife. I trust her more than I've ever trusted anyone. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. That doesn't mean that it will happen, and it sure the hell doesn't mean I picked the wrong woman if it doesn't. People change, circumstances change, and relationships change right along with them.

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meow_173

thank you!

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FooserX

I agree 100%...

But giving immature kids the power and liberty to have sex is like starting them behind in a race. Sure they might succeed...but it definitely stacks the odds against them.

And nice job making things work out Meow...but is that really the norm?

meow_173

Well, from my very small experience, it seems to be the way these days. but what happens happens you know?

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hwnorth

WHOA... hold on... shes 16, attending high school full time, is part of a dance school and performs often at events, plus is looking for work and trying to get her drivers license. Shes a very good kid with a pretty good attitude

FooserX

Sorry Hwnorth...with all the members here, sometimes our kids get confusing...I'm pretty sure Teresa just got mixed up.

She sounds like a good kid, but what all changes IF she gets pregnant?

Still dancing? Able to be a good mom who is there for the kid? Able to finish High School and College?

You're playing with fire, and if something bad happens, it's as much the parents fault as it is the kids...because they are encouraging this behavior.