Good Wolf

You always want what you can't have and if you make a big deal out of it she will most likely pursue him with more vigor. I would take Fallon's advice.

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HappyMomma

Ya know, I can remember several times that as a young girl, I had crushes on older men. Thinking back it gives me chills and makes me thankful that none of them were demented and decided to take advantage of that kind of situation. Although I never actively persued any of them, I am sure it was quite obvious.

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Cthru

That is my point exactly. The wrong person with bad intentions could totally take advantage of this situation. It is a real danger. When they are little and they cross the street unattended, do we gently tell them they shouldn't do that or do people make a bigger deal out of it because it is a danger?

It's a very dangerous situation and unacceptable for her as a young girl to be approaching people like that... especially with 'crush' intentions.

Teresa

I have a fifteen year old daughter, and I am in the "don't make a big deal of it" camp. Tell her that what she did was inappropriate, and that it isn't to happen again. DON'T try to restrict her friendship with him at this point, or you'll push her toward him. Just keep a close eye on things, and see to it that she doesn't cross the line again....and that he doesn't cross any boundaries, either.
As far as the notes go....that's no different than saying Hi to a neighbor when you see them. He can't hear, so she writes it down...NOT a big deal to me.

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HappyMomma

Has she actually been in his condo?

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Kellell

Yeah, that’s why I didn’t make a big deal out of it because I don’t want her to try going after him even more. But it still really bothers me. It also surprises me that she consider him to be very attractive since he’s deaf. I got to say he’s quite good looking, but I don’t think I could ever really overlook his disability. So I don't really understand.
Yeah he bring women home often, all of them are around his age though, so I’m not too worried about him trying anything. But I’m still keeping eyes on him just to be safe though. One thing I don’t understand is, why would he let them touch his stomach? Why would he still talk to her if she approaches him?
No she hasn’t been in his condo, but his condo is right across from our. The condo have a lot of windows and he’s always leaving his blinds open during the day. So it’s easy to see inside the place and since my daughter like to look at him, she is often looking in his place from one of the window or balcony of our condo. So that's how she know so much about him.

Good Wolf

I wouldn't have a problem with a person being deaf if I found them attractive and they had a good personality. The peace and quiet around the house would be welcome at times.

He probably let them feel his stomach because he was a bit flattered by the question. Most people have to work out A LOT to get a six pack. He probably didn't think anything of it and then when they took it too far he backed away. If he had any intentions of hitting on your daugther it would have happened right then. Most men don't bide their time and wait for the kill. They rush right in guns blazing.

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Claire64

I agree with Good Wolf that being deaf isn't an issue or a turn-off. My brother-in-law is deaf and he is absolutely a babe. He's married with three kids and before that he dated a lot of beautiful women. He's a photographer, so they were mostly models.

Anyways, I don't think that the girls touching his abs would be that big of a deal to him. Ryan has a six pack and I've seen girls (and guys) touch it before, not in a sexual way, but just to see how hard they are.

musicmom

How does she know what his place looks like? Or how he takes care of his animals? Hello? What am I missing. You are her mother and you are allowing her to do these things and actually watching her do it?
Sorry but I would have marched my motherly butt right over and snatched the note and the pen and wrote in big bold letters "POLICE" and handed it to him and then I would have grabbed her by whatever I could and march her butt to her room and the friend would be history.
I'm still not understanding how you watched her rub her hands all over a grown man and did nothing. There is a time and a place to cause a scene and that was the right time and place. He's deaf not stupid. No child needs to be touching a mans body. Ugh.

Skyburning

MM-I don't think you read the whole thread. The man did push the girls away and the OP said that the daughter hasn't been inside the condo only watched through the window. IMO this man has done nothing wrong and threatening him with the police is out of line.

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