obie

I think this is a wonderful service. If kids do not want to tell parents whats going on in their lives, parents will find out sooner or later. Its very important for parents to know what goes on in a kids life. You always hear about parents who had "no idea" how their kid turned out the way they did. And then the parent gets blamed.

If I caught my future child with drugs, they would have the cops called on them right then and there.

period. the end.

i dont give a rats ass if my kid "likes me" or not.

Music-dad

I'm gonna fully agree with Lissa on this. That's all I'll say for now.

straighup1

Hi I will not give my real name but you can call me Max. I am 17 years old and I just stumbled upon this forum. I was looking around and I went to the puberty (mid-teen) forum because that’s what I am. I did not really mean to join the forums but this post is a bit unnerving.
Talking with your kids will bring them up (or down) to your level. They will see you more as an advisor and a mentor, less of the all commanding god. Since they will feel closer to you then they will be more upfront. Calling these people is one step away from the cops (which is a really bad situation). If, your child finds out about this they will feel like you have betrayed them. It will feel like you have stabbed them in the back. Relationships do not exist without trust.
Communicate, talk to them. If your kids are on drugs you should be able to tell, look for paraphernalia (pipes, rolling papers, small baggies lying around, pro-weed lighters and clothing -only tokers (pot smokers) use this stuff-), if they have burns on their faces, teeth look rotted, glassy eyes and check if theirs any solvents lying around. These are just a few things that could key you in. If you have a suspicion about them abusing then learn about the substance. Understand the substance and what it does, learn all you can then talk to you child. Remember if they are addicted that they no longer control the drug but the drug controls them.
Calling these people could be the worst thing you ever did for them and your relationship with them. If you are in danger as in real (you are about to get stabbed) peril then call the police, that’s it.

Ok for why my thoughts should be considered… I have done a fair amount of drugs and I find that a majority of kids will do some kind of mind altering substance at some time or another. From personal experience I find that the kids with the strictest parents tend to fall the farthest. Also if you were to take me (not literally asking you to) into anyone of your apartments/houses kitchens or bathrooms I could find for you at a minimum of 3 completely different ways to get a high (or otherwise intoxicated). This information is not to scare you but to make you realize that if someone wants to get high you cannot stop them. However you can advise them and give them support, turning them in the right direction. Although if they are addicted it is most wise to seek the help of a professional which does not involve the police or drug dogs, try a rehab center.

Remember that understanding what the drug does and how it affects the user are crucial to helping your kids. Try and understand what they are going through. Communication is essential.





not sure if i should post here because i am not a parent (yet) but, I hope this helps.
-max

3kids4me

I think that any parent that believes that all children will use drugs and any parent that believes their children will never use drugs is wrong.

That said, I hope that I would never have to use a service of a drug sniffing dog to find out if there are drugs in my home.

We've had discussions with our oldest about alcohol and drugs. All of us coming from a history of alcoholism has made these discussions imperative - the kids need to know they are at risk so since we have to go there, it's easy to bring up drugs at the same time.

I take a middle of the road position on this. I have a good relationship with the 13 year old and he's pretty open with me. It's my hope that if he's tempted by or offered drugs he will feel comfortable talking to me about it and that will only happen if he's confident that I'm not going to freak out about it.

Lisa

musicmom

fallon

well said...and welcome to the board

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HappyMomma

I agree. I think it's the parents that DON'T talk to their children about drugs and alcohol that are at the most risk.

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mmynedshlp

ok I agree with all this but i want to say something for debating sake.

Lets say the parents have discussed drugs with the kids. They have had tons of drugs issues and even have had thier child in drug rehab. There child has ignored all consequences and has done all kinds of drugs.

lets say the child is no longer in the home anymore.
what do you keep?

I have work security for raves and oh man the places I have seen drugs stored. let me tell you Re-packed tampons. they pull out the cotton and them put them back in and they are so sly even glued back up the package.

Cosmetics, lipsticks, facial powders, and even those nostril things for stuffed up noses.
I have to pat down thier hair because they actually hide it in thier hair when putting it up.
Yes most of my finds were on girls because they were the ones i patted down.
repacked cigerrettes and tons more.

So if you were a parent in this situation and wanted to know what was safe to send to them or keep for them and what to get rid of, By all means Bring in the dogs.

Parents almost every state has a website to learn signs like nasal spray, rubbing of nose and eyes. over tiredness, over activeness, not eating, over eating, lying, avoidance, etc.
Learn them because that one kids right. Most kids will try it once. Just thankgoodness the one they usually try does not work on the first try because you have to build up the chemical in your body. Guess what they know that too. They ARE drug educated. How do I know? Lets just say my mom was not the best and our home was the local hang out.
I have seen people go through delirioum tremors and I have seen people scratch up thier faces screaming they were on fire and I have shoved heads in Ice water. I have cleaned up puke. I have put up with cranks who did not sleep for three days. ( wow the house was so clean) I have scrubbed at spoons turned black and tons more.
There is times for a dog l know from expierence. ever want stories to scare your kids please by all means let me know i will make a thread for it with just my expierences dealing with my friends and family.

FooserX

lol...this is outrageous.

What is a "responsible" way to do drugs?

I plan on educating my kid(s) about drugs plain and simple. There is nothing good that comes from them, and if I raised them right, they'll see that pretty easy.

There are also plenty of kids out there who never try drugs or give in to peer pressure.

mmynedshlp

yah they are the ones that try to OD on Red Bull, sniff glue, huff gas, get a sugar high, or are outside twirling in circles till they get dizzy and fall down.

No there are some that don't, but they try it in other ways. lets just pray that thier expierences are bad so they dont try anything others tell them is better.