Xero

Thanks for the reply... That makes a lot of sense, and almost the exact same thing has run through my head already. That I should hear it from him before taking it as the truth.

Honestly, I was never interested one bit in contacting or having a relationship with him up until a little while after Eli was born. I never even bothered to ask anyone about him, or if he'd be interested. I didn't really care. I don't know what it is, but now I feel different. I guess (for me) having my own child gets me thinking about my own family, or something like that.

Writing him a letter sounds like a really good idea. I would love to do that. I just have to ask somebody for his exact address. All I know is that he lives in Palm Beach Gardens, FL. So once I get that... I think I might give it a try. If it's a no-go, then I'll just leave it alone and never think about it again, because it's not worth worrying over.

Thanks again.

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Cthru

I was adopted and also never had an interest in finding my birth parents until I had the twins. I wanted to know where they came from, if they ran in the family - what other things ran in the family etc.
It really turned out ok in my situation. I found my birth mother and had many of the same fears when contacting her. She didn't really step in and try to be my 'mother', nor did I want her to, but we have a decent relationship now as friends of sorts. I think after so much time has past the wounds from what happened around when you were born are healed within adults. I think as long as you approach him in a way where he does not feel you are looking for him to support you or make him feel defensive, I bet it would go ok. I think you should just muster up the courage, expect the worst case (so if it does indeed happen you are not as crushed) and hope for the best. It's a tough situation to be in - although mine is different, I do remember that similar feeling.
It's worth a try.. you'll never be able to feel any better about it until you at least give it a shot.
*hug*

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