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Abbi · 06-20-2007, 08:47 AM

How do you feel about young adults getting married (generally)?

Would you feel any different if half of the young couple was a child of yours?

Kaytee · 06-20-2007, 12:19 PM

I think kids should not get married young. Of course it all depends on the situation and all of that. However I got married at 25 and I though I was too young. lol I always figured I wouls marry around 27 then have a baby around 29, but well oh well what can ya do? I also didn't think I would find my dh when I was 20, so that makes a difference as well.

Abbi · 06-20-2007, 01:04 PM

I felt the same way, but two of my stepsons were married at 22 and 19, my stepdaughter is engaged at 18 and they're all happy. And I wouldn't doubt them lasting either. Still I think I'd be a bit wary if Bekah got engaged at a young age.

SageMother · 06-20-2007, 09:41 PM

I feel that going with nature saves alot of problems in the long run. Getting married before 30 seems to be best if children are to be born in wedlock.

Trina · 06-21-2007, 06:13 AM

I have no problems with young adults (20+) getting married, as long as they know it's the real thing and a life long commitment. However, I know of few teen marriages that have lasted the long haul. DH and I got married in our early 20s (23, 24) and were very ready. We had both graduated college, started our careers and had been living out on our own (separately) for awhile already. We didn't start a family until 8 yrs. later, but that's a whole different topic. LOL! Happily married almost 19 years.

Sillygurl2l8 · 06-21-2007, 09:23 AM

I was one of the many who married young and it didn't work out. My first marriage was when I was 19 years old. From my experience you don't know what you want at that age. Marriage is just a final thing, such a closing for some many areas of life. And when you are 19 years old, you haven't experienced everything you could. You dont even know what it is like to be free yet. So, I agree, marriage at a young age isn't a good thing or a final thing because sadly maybe that is why the divorce rate is so high these days!! And getting married at a young age because of a child isn't right either. The child won't change anything.

mamab · 06-21-2007, 02:46 PM

I think it all depends on the maturity of the people involved. My mom was 19 when she and my dad got married, and they'd only known each other 5 months at the time. They're going on 50 years this year. My husband was 19, I was 21. We're going on 21 years this year.

Tom · 06-21-2007, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Abbi

How do you feel about young adults getting married (generally)?

All I can say for sure is that *I* was not ready as a young adult even though I'm sure there were times I would have claimed differently. I'm glad I was over 30 when I got married. I'm sure people mature differently but if I had to generalize I'd say late 20s/early 30s would be the most appropriate time.

newdad06 · 06-22-2007, 12:35 PM

I would worry if my children wanted to get married at an early age. I think, though, that it should be taken on case by case.

Kaytee · 06-22-2007, 01:43 PM

I agree. It really does depend on the people involved, but in most cases children should not be getting married. I consider anyone under 23 or 24 to be children. I'm only 28 btw

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