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07-25-2007, 05:10 PM
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Like the title says my daughter is 21 years old and in college. She's living at home while she's in school. I'm really concerned about her. She doesn't have any friends and never dated a boy. She spends her nights and free time with my husband and I. She's really shy and even with family friends she known all her life, she's awkward and quiet around them. But around us, she's not like this at all. I don't know what's wrong, this doesn't seem like normal behavior. Please help. | ||
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07-25-2007, 05:22 PM
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I wish I could offer some help, but I really don't know what to say. I would sugest that if you are truly concerned you should try to talk to her and see how she feels. Like any signs of depression or whatnot. Bless you I don't know what else to say. I hope someone here can offer better advise
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07-25-2007, 05:39 PM
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Thanks for trying. She's not depressed, at least I don't think so. She's always laughing and smiling at home. When people talk to her, she'll smile and respond but she won't initiate conversations or do anything to continue it. It's like she's two different people. She's not like this around us. I just wish she could be the person she is with us, around other people as well. | ||
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07-26-2007, 09:23 AM
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I think it's hard becoming a women. As time goes on and she finds her place in the world I'm sure it will all work out. If she's a happy girl, healthy and doing well in school let her be. The more you pressure her to be more outgoing the harder it will be for her. Just keep the lines of communication open and things will fall into place for her | ||
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07-29-2007, 11:55 AM
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i was very much like you're daughter when i was younger i am now 30yrs old and although i am more confident and forthcoming than i was i am still shy it has never harmed me in any way maybe if you went out with your daughter to public places she would slowly grow in confidence and her personality will come through good luck | ||
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08-02-2007, 11:35 AM
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It sounds as if she is very comfortable at home with you two, maybe too comfortable. Did she go through the rebellious stage in her teens? I think you need to push her out to do things independently and be on her own for a weekend with a relative maybe? A cousin or an aunt? | ||
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08-15-2007, 06:25 AM
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Oh my goodness....if my daughter were only like yours. Be careful what you wish for...and if you want you can read my post of "today is the day I realized my daughter (18) doesn't love me". Maybe your daughter is just a late bloomer with her social skills...she'll get there...but the good thing is, she is gaining maturity before anything else, and that - trust me - is a good thing. Good luck. | ||
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11-24-2007, 01:11 AM
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Does she have any hobbies where she could make some friends? She sounds like she is focusing on her studies now and that is not a bad thing.
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11-25-2007, 03:35 PM
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Good answer from pjc2809! Your daughter doesn't sound "abnormal" if she's always been shy. If she is generally happy, has goals for her life, then just accept her for who her is, and allow her to grow at her own pace. Everyone is different. Pushing her will probably make her feel more uncomfortable. If being withdrawn is something that is new with her, then it's abnormal. I was very shy too when I was younger, and I hated people telling me what I should be.
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