SageMother

Regardless of the values, to her it was strife. It doesn't have to be something anyone approves of, it was a hardship. Otherwise, she wouldn't have had to be thrown out. I am not saying anything is right or wrong, I am saying it is strife.

Maturity comes in stages and might not look the same for everyone. IF nothing else, she is recognizing her limitations and going into the Marines. If she recognizes her inability to get along with her birth family as a limitation that she cannot overcome, that is a sign of maturity. It might not be comfortable, it might not be ideal, but she is still taking care of herself and recognizing her limits.

fallon

I must hvae misunderstode you than because the way I read it, it sounded as though you were saying the parents were to blame

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SageMother

There is no blame, just events and consequences. Regardless of the reason a person is kicked out of a living situation, they will reevaluate their ability to cope with further interaction, assuming they have no conditions that would prevent them from doing so. Making decisions based on the information at hand, and their ability to move past the event as they see fit, are signs of maturity, just as the parents made decisions based on information they had.