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janna57 · 08-22-2008, 10:35 PM

Hi, I am Janna and this is my first post. I was looking for a few tips about my grandson. First, of all my daughter is worried about him turning into a little bully. When she took him out today, he ran up to neighbor boy and took the drink out of his hand and ran away and laughed. Also, problems with her next door neighbor's little girl. My grandson will hit her and be mean, but her neighbor says that he is only like that when my daughter is with him. The neighbor has babysat my grandson a few times, and said that he is not mean to her daughter when his mother is not there. Sometimes, my grandson will start throwing his toys around and at people, even me.
Here is what I do when he is acting like this. I will pick him up, put him on my lap and in a hold after I have scolded him. He will yell and try to hit, but I just continue to hold him, then he tries to kiss me. I will act mad for a little while and ignore him. After he quiets down I will let him go. Then he will come up and hug me, and I kiss him and hug him. I have argued with my daughter about smacking him. She says, that just tap his hand or his but and not hurt him. I told her that it makes no sense. I have hit my kids on a "few" occasions, and if I had a second chance to raise them all over again, I would NEVER hit them. I am totally against hitting. even my mother thinks that I should smack his hand when he gets agressive e.g. hitting, biting. I don't agree with the old school of discipline. I believe that I am more educated now and am totally against hitting. But, what do you do with a child that does not understand reasoning? Also, I have pointed out to my daughter that my grandson has his tantrums when he is overtired, and it is not "his" fault that he is not getting the rest when he needs it.
I told my daughter when he is mean to neighbor, pick him up and bring him home. She says that he goes to door, bangs on it, and has tantrum. I said, so what's your point? I believe that she just needs to remove him from situation, if she can. e.g. bring him in the house and let him have tantrum.
Any comments?

08-22-2008, 10:35 PM
janna57 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 6 Rep Power: 0 Reputation: 10	Behavior problems of 19 mos. old Hi, I am Janna and this is my first post. I was looking for a few tips about my grandson. First, of all my daughter is worried about him turning into a little bully. When she took him out today, he ran up to neighbor boy and took the drink out of his hand and ran away and laughed. Also, problems with her next door neighbor's little girl. My grandson will hit her and be mean, but her neighbor says that he is only like that when my daughter is with him. The neighbor has babysat my grandson a few times, and said that he is not mean to her daughter when his mother is not there. Sometimes, my grandson will start throwing his toys around and at people, even me. Here is what I do when he is acting like this. I will pick him up, put him on my lap and in a hold after I have scolded him. He will yell and try to hit, but I just continue to hold him, then he tries to kiss me. I will act mad for a little while and ignore him. After he quiets down I will let him go. Then he will come up and hug me, and I kiss him and hug him. I have argued with my daughter about smacking him. She says, that just tap his hand or his but and not hurt him. I told her that it makes no sense. I have hit my kids on a "few" occasions, and if I had a second chance to raise them all over again, I would NEVER hit them. I am totally against hitting. even my mother thinks that I should smack his hand when he gets agressive e.g. hitting, biting. I don't agree with the old school of discipline. I believe that I am more educated now and am totally against hitting. But, what do you do with a child that does not understand reasoning? Also, I have pointed out to my daughter that my grandson has his tantrums when he is overtired, and it is not "his" fault that he is not getting the rest when he needs it. I told my daughter when he is mean to neighbor, pick him up and bring him home. She says that he goes to door, bangs on it, and has tantrum. I said, so what's your point? I believe that she just needs to remove him from situation, if she can. e.g. bring him in the house and let him have tantrum. Any comments?