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janna57 · 08-23-2008, 09:13 AM

Thanks Mindy. You are going to be a great parent. Are you working in childcare field?
Although, I never hit him and discourage my daughter not to. She just started hitting him, as this is what his dad does. I really get mad about it. His dad thinks there is nothing wrong with hitting. My point has been that he is still a baby!! Really too young for a timeout. However, my timeouts with him, are just putting him in a hold on my lap. I am a nurse and worked in psych facility. On our children's unit, we would put children in timeout chair, for one minute for every yr. of their age. If they would act out during that time, the timer would be re-set.
Another thing that my daughter has done is smacking his butt, if he runs out into road.(well her parking lot in apt.complex) I told her that was totally unnnecssary to hit him. He has ran out on my road.(I live on a non-busy street) I would pick him up and bring him in the house. I did not hit him, but I did yell at him. I feel that was all that was necessary, as he was so upset and threw a tantrum. I am not sure if he is really getting the message, that if he goes into road that he loses his "outdoor" playtime privilege. But, I think he does at the time. He loves to be outdoors and bringing him inside is sure punishment to him.
Oh well, there is not much that I can do, as I am not the parent. And, my daughter does not go around hittting him all the tme. And, it is just one tap, but I think that it is ridiculous. I believe that it is just teaching him to hit. Also, I believe that hittting is lazy parenting. I have done it "seldomly" when I raised my children. But, I tell my daughter that I was WRONG! But, others disagree with m. As I said before, my mother thinks there is nothing wrong with smacking his hand or butt. Also, my husband thinks it is okay.

08-23-2008, 09:13 AM
janna57 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 6 Rep Power: 0 Reputation: 10	Re: Behavior problems of 19 mos. old Thanks Mindy. You are going to be a great parent. Are you working in childcare field? Although, I never hit him and discourage my daughter not to. She just started hitting him, as this is what his dad does. I really get mad about it. His dad thinks there is nothing wrong with hitting. My point has been that he is still a baby!! Really too young for a timeout. However, my timeouts with him, are just putting him in a hold on my lap. I am a nurse and worked in psych facility. On our children's unit, we would put children in timeout chair, for one minute for every yr. of their age. If they would act out during that time, the timer would be re-set. Another thing that my daughter has done is smacking his butt, if he runs out into road.(well her parking lot in apt.complex) I told her that was totally unnnecssary to hit him. He has ran out on my road.(I live on a non-busy street) I would pick him up and bring him in the house. I did not hit him, but I did yell at him. I feel that was all that was necessary, as he was so upset and threw a tantrum. I am not sure if he is really getting the message, that if he goes into road that he loses his "outdoor" playtime privilege. But, I think he does at the time. He loves to be outdoors and bringing him inside is sure punishment to him. Oh well, there is not much that I can do, as I am not the parent. And, my daughter does not go around hittting him all the tme. And, it is just one tap, but I think that it is ridiculous. I believe that it is just teaching him to hit. Also, I believe that hittting is lazy parenting. I have done it "seldomly" when I raised my children. But, I tell my daughter that I was WRONG! But, others disagree with m. As I said before, my mother thinks there is nothing wrong with smacking his hand or butt. Also, my husband thinks it is okay.