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lily_angel_love · 09-01-2008, 08:22 PM

When my daughter corylee was about that age, she is now 4, she would throw these terrible tantrums and would hurt anybody she could reach. She would bite kick sctratch throw stuff, anything to hurt people. After exhausting all of my resources i finally decided she needed to be talked to. So i would kneel down to her level have her look me right in the eyes and I would tell her that "she is not allowed to get that angry. She can get upset but not that angry." I would explain to her that it is completely natural to be upset, but shes not allowed to get that angry.
When little kids get mad they fuss, but when they get angry and try to hurt others they scare themselves and then they loose all control. When they get angry they get scared which makes them more angry and it just turns into a vicious cycle. Another thing is be consistent that way the child knows that it is always ok to be upset but never ok to be that angry. If the child is still trying to hurt people after having it explained sit them on the bed and wait in the door way. Sometimes it is hard to think that the child will understand you but they do, just as the understand candy or park. I am currently going through this same thing with my 19 month old daughter and with any child it is repitition. Be consistent at first it may not seem to make a difference but slowly the fits will get less often and less severe.

09-01-2008, 08:22 PM
lily_angel_love Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Rapid City South Dakota Posts: 9 Rep Power: 0 Reputation: 10 Children: I have and 11yr old stepdaughter, 5yr old son, 4yr old daughter, 19mos daughter, and 7mos daughter	Re: Behavior problems of 19 mos. old When my daughter corylee was about that age, she is now 4, she would throw these terrible tantrums and would hurt anybody she could reach. She would bite kick sctratch throw stuff, anything to hurt people. After exhausting all of my resources i finally decided she needed to be talked to. So i would kneel down to her level have her look me right in the eyes and I would tell her that "she is not allowed to get that angry. She can get upset but not that angry." I would explain to her that it is completely natural to be upset, but shes not allowed to get that angry. When little kids get mad they fuss, but when they get angry and try to hurt others they scare themselves and then they loose all control. When they get angry they get scared which makes them more angry and it just turns into a vicious cycle. Another thing is be consistent that way the child knows that it is always ok to be upset but never ok to be that angry. If the child is still trying to hurt people after having it explained sit them on the bed and wait in the door way. Sometimes it is hard to think that the child will understand you but they do, just as the understand candy or park. I am currently going through this same thing with my 19 month old daughter and with any child it is repitition. Be consistent at first it may not seem to make a difference but slowly the fits will get less often and less severe.