[fallon]

first of all I want to say I'm sorry. I personally know how hard this can be. That said, it's up to you to remain active in your dds life. I hear a lot of fathers say things after a break up about the mother...they can't see their child because of the mother...they don't want to pay child support because they don't know what the mother is doing with it...my personal fav is..."she won't let me see my kid". Hopefully for your dd this break up can be "friendly", but if it isn't it's up to you to make sure you have all your ducks in a row so that you can see your dd without her making the rules. As keep in mind that no child is ever truly happy in an unhappy household, staying together for the kids only makes things harder on everyone. Keep your head up, stay close to your little girl, it seems to me you love her very much, everything will be OK. I really do want to stress to you how important it is to try to maintain a friendly relationship with your x for the sake of the child. I know it's easier said than done but it is whats ideal in a situation like this. If however common ground can't be met please please please never say anything negative about the mother in front of your child, that is also easier said than done but in the end you'll be happy you didn't let your dd hear you say bad things about her mom, even if mom can't do the same. Vent anywhere else if you have to, just never where dd may hear you