[FooserX]

>>>>Just because a father is not in the household doesn't mean that he is not in her life. I did not live with my dad till I was 13 and believe me I had a father. He drove over an hour every week to see me cheer, then would come back out to pick me up every weekend. He was involved regardless of where he lived and I lived.


Involved every weekend or on nights you cheer? I'm talking about a dad who is there everyday to deal with everyday issues, teach everyday lessons, and set everyday examples.


>>>Also Fooser, would it better for this man to live with the GF and they fight and cannot get along?

I don't know. I know loving someone is a decision. He liked her well enough to make a baby. I'm just saying there is a lot maturity and hard work will overcome. Even for happy couples...marriage is work! Don't you agree? I'm 2 years into my marriage, and I swear...the first year and a half was hell. I had divorce papers printed up...we were fighting everyday...it was horrible. We pushed through it, and now we are very happy.

I think a lot of couples give up and quit because finding someone new and exciting is much more appealing and easy than working things out with someone who they have known for a while.

The second a person decides to have unprotected sex in a non-committed relationship, they really forgo any rights to personal happiness as far as I'm concerned. Now it's time to put the kids' well being #1...and their best interest is to have a dad who will be there everyday, not just weekends. They don't need dating partners coming and going, and two sets of house rules for the separate families.

Basically, leaving the family is saying "well, my happiness is more important that my child having a stable mom and dad to bring her up" If a person doesn't want to be in that situation, they shouldn't be having sex then. And please don't say it's a mistake, and we all make them. Falling down is a mistake. Locking your keys in the car is a mistake. Making a baby is a conscious decision.