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Aponder · 01-20-2009, 07:26 PM

Full on spanking out in public isn't necessary but, sometimes ya just gotta smack that little spawn on the backside in order to get their attention.

My older kids never got spanked but, the youngest one... well, he's a little hellion at times and I've spanked him a few times.

Here's some advice for those that do decide to use the spank route as punishment.

1: Always use your bare hand, no belts ot other instruments of torture are allowed. Using such an instrument disassociates the parent from the actual pain they might be causing. If your hand is sore after a spank, you've hit the little spawn too hard and need to adjust your swing next time. The idea is to shock them, not to injure them or keep them from being able to sit down.

2: Never spank as a result of a reflexive action... I recommend the old tried and true 10 count between the offending action and the corporal punishment. If you are going to open up a can of whoopass on your child, you need to take care and make sure you are in control of your own anger first.

3: After you take your 10 count, explain to the child calmly that their behavior is unacceptable and that you'll give them one chance to change their attitude or else they will receive 1, I repeat, 1 solid smack on the butt.

4: If they continue to act the fool... you'll probably have to wrestle them into a proper position... expect kicking and squirming, possibly biting if they are really wild...

5: Once they are in position... that is, bent awkwardly over your knees... give them one more chance and explain that you'd really rather not do this but, they are behaving in a very unacceptable manner and that you will not tolerate it any longer.

6: If they aren't frightened into submission yet... well... it sucks but... you gotta give them one good swat on the butt.

7: Let them alone for a short while to consider what just occurred. If it's your first time spanking the kid... 5 minutes is sufficient.

8: Go and check on them... give them a hug and explain that you really don't like doing that but, it had to be done.

9: Make some ice cream and enjoy your child until the next tantrum.

10: Repeat as needed.

note: I've never had to smack his butt more than twice and, he's still not as afraid of a spank threat as he should be... he tells me I don't do it hard enough and laughs more often than not. I just don't have the heart to beat a child senseless...

Anyway... a quick swat on the arse is all well and good in public but... keep your domestic violence issues back at the trailer.

01-20-2009, 07:26 PM
Aponder PF Enthusiast Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Daytona, Fl. Posts: 78 Rep Power: 105 Reputation: 2141 Children: 2 boys (7,11) ~\|^\|~ 1 girl (12)	Re: parents who spank their kids out in public Full on spanking out in public isn't necessary but, sometimes ya just gotta smack that little spawn on the backside in order to get their attention. My older kids never got spanked but, the youngest one... well, he's a little hellion at times and I've spanked him a few times. Here's some advice for those that do decide to use the spank route as punishment. 1: Always use your bare hand, no belts ot other instruments of torture are allowed. Using such an instrument disassociates the parent from the actual pain they might be causing. If your hand is sore after a spank, you've hit the little spawn too hard and need to adjust your swing next time. The idea is to shock them, not to injure them or keep them from being able to sit down. 2: Never spank as a result of a reflexive action... I recommend the old tried and true 10 count between the offending action and the corporal punishment. If you are going to open up a can of whoopass on your child, you need to take care and make sure you are in control of your own anger first. 3: After you take your 10 count, explain to the child calmly that their behavior is unacceptable and that you'll give them one chance to change their attitude or else they will receive 1, I repeat, 1 solid smack on the butt. 4: If they continue to act the fool... you'll probably have to wrestle them into a proper position... expect kicking and squirming, possibly biting if they are really wild... 5: Once they are in position... that is, bent awkwardly over your knees... give them one more chance and explain that you'd really rather not do this but, they are behaving in a very unacceptable manner and that you will not tolerate it any longer. 6: If they aren't frightened into submission yet... well... it sucks but... you gotta give them one good swat on the butt. 7: Let them alone for a short while to consider what just occurred. If it's your first time spanking the kid... 5 minutes is sufficient. 8: Go and check on them... give them a hug and explain that you really don't like doing that but, it had to be done. 9: Make some ice cream and enjoy your child until the next tantrum. 10: Repeat as needed. note: I've never had to smack his butt more than twice and, he's still not as afraid of a spank threat as he should be... he tells me I don't do it hard enough and laughs more often than not. I just don't have the heart to beat a child senseless... Anyway... a quick swat on the arse is all well and good in public but... keep your domestic violence issues back at the trailer.