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Originally Posted by Tau
As unconditionally as you have loved her, you did kick her out of your home. It is reasonable to expect her to feel angry, betrayed and abandonded and retaliate by not saying goodbye.
Like many here, I think there is a good chance that she will gain some distance and maturity and reach out to you when she is ready. How you respond at that point will set the tone for the rest of your relationship.
Give her the time she needs and be patient. Hopefully your relationship with her hasn't been damaged to the point that she will cut you out of her life forever.
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There are always logical consequences for actions taken. It seems to me that her not saying goodbye is a logical consequence of previous years of strife. With maturity she might reach out, but with the same maturity, she may never return because she will realize her decisions will never be compatible with your desires for her, and find the prospect of dealing with the same frictions "unproductive".
To assume that growing up will lead to her return is rather unreasonable, IMHO. I don't see her not saying goodbye as retaliation. It is the act of someone who, as an adult, refuses to look back. It is the decision of someone who is taking care of themselves.
Mature people do that.