[16th ave.]

my mom is 60 and my dad is 70. my mom is able bodied and works full time normally. she's just never been on her own before and is also dealing with grief while watching her husband slowly die and yet go on living. so she needs to learn how to set the budget and make sure certain bills are paid and when and all that sort of stuff. ya know--the things ya learn in the first year or two after h.s. graduation.

there's a half-sister who is a crackhead that's already done her best to talk my mom into letting her stay with her. the woman stays doped up and was only after the drugs in my mom's home.
then there's also my oldest brother (her son) who refuses to hold a job for more than a month or so at time that has always had my dad "take care" of his bills for him. he's tried to get my mom to let him move in with her b/c he's out of a job now and has no income. he has a habit of trying to boss everyone around and blowing up if they don't do as he says which he recently did with my mom. jumped all over her b/c he got upset with me.

my sister and other two brothers their spouses and us are trying to help her out as much as possible without her getting too dependent on us but not push her away. its important for her to be able to be a woman for once without someone else making her do things that she hasn't had a chance to think about.

the rest of my dad's kids don't even bother with any of us since they never liked my mom anyway.

a couple things that have happened to give ya an idea
the registration renewal came for the suv. she couldn't tell which of the "trucks" (we call the suv a truck since its as big as one) it was for and when it was due and how much was owed. she didn't know how to read it and didn't know which sticker is which on the suv. worried herself sick about it all day and needed help with it when she got home.
another is that when she needs gas in her truck (a real truck not an suv) she waits until she's home and asks for one of us to go put gas in it like she's scared to get gas.

its like she doesn't know what to do or when or how since there has always been someone there to make most of the decisions.
but physically--nah. it will hopefully be a loooong time before she's ready for a home. she danged sure aint worried or embarrassed about asking for help with something.