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Originally Posted by Xero
TabascoNatalie - I must say that advice isn't terrible helpful. When our kids are adults, they will go out on their own and do as they please. When they're still kids (even if they're kids that are CLOSE to being adults) they are still kids. And they need to be parented. Your suggestion that parents ignore their teenagers other than to teach them how to cook and clean (which btw they wont want to do if they think they can get away with it, which in order to raise them the way you're suggesting, you'd have to allow them to get away with it) is just not going to get this person very far. Or the kid.
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well, i guess we misunderstood each other. what i was saying, that the most important thing at this point is to teach that young person to take care of oneself. (that's what parenting is about after all -- to get kids ready for life). I mentioned cooking and cleaning, and other things to take care of at home, because a terrible lot of young adults nowadays don't know how to do that, and that is disgraceful. And two years afterwars this girl might be starting a family of her own
it is nothing wrong if she doesn't feel like going to bed at 10, or if she needs more than 3 hours of computer time, if in general she is being responsible and not getting into trouble. if parents spend their energy arguing about these things while forgetting more important ones -- it isn't very productive either.