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IADad · 02-25-2010, 01:02 PM

Anything BUT confusing, I just think you aren't letting yourself see the truth.

You've said "Red Flags" at least twice. There's a reason they call them red flags not yellow flags. it mean stop, don't do it and I don't think it's miswording that's making you say it. You actually said he has "major issues" with anger. If your friend came to you and said, "I'm thinking about moving in with this guy, but he has major issues with anger." What would you tell her? So, take your own advice.

So, just because you made a mistake and got pregnant by this man, you feel the need to move in with him ,even though you haven't apparently spent an entire week together every day.

He's threatening you. You don't need to work on his issues. HE needs to work on his issues. Don't bow to his petty threats. If you are a good mom and take care of your kids, no court is going to take one of them away. You need a partner, not a boss. When he can take responsibility for his own actions, when he can treat you as his equal and when he's ready to be a dad, and not a baby owner then maybe you should consider living with him. If I were you, I wouldn't even be dating him right now with the way you describe things.

02-25-2010, 01:02 PM
IADad Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Iowa Posts: 3,660 Rep Power: 619 Reputation: 13198 Children: 2 boys - 9yo and 5yo	Re: Looking for feedback on dating... Anything BUT confusing, I just think you aren't letting yourself see the truth. You've said "Red Flags" at least twice. There's a reason they call them red flags not yellow flags. it mean stop, don't do it and I don't think it's miswording that's making you say it. You actually said he has "major issues" with anger. If your friend came to you and said, "I'm thinking about moving in with this guy, but he has major issues with anger." What would you tell her? So, take your own advice. So, just because you made a mistake and got pregnant by this man, you feel the need to move in with him ,even though you haven't apparently spent an entire week together every day. He's threatening you. You don't need to work on his issues. HE needs to work on his issues. Don't bow to his petty threats. If you are a good mom and take care of your kids, no court is going to take one of them away. You need a partner, not a boss. When he can take responsibility for his own actions, when he can treat you as his equal and when he's ready to be a dad, and not a baby owner then maybe you should consider living with him. If I were you, I wouldn't even be dating him right now with the way you describe things.