[7twenty2]

Sorry, I might not have been clear on the living situation. I am living in another state about 500 miles from my wife and daughter due to a job transfer. I transferred about five months ago. We are married, but discussing the possibility of a divorce.

It would be almost impossible for me to approach my wife and confront her about this without having proof that it is actual molestation. My gut instinct tells me that it is, because I know my daughter and if what my wife was doing did not bother her, she would not complain about it. But as I said before, sitting down and having a heart to heart talk with an 8 year old about this is not an easy task, and there are a lot of risks involved.

Confronting child molesters is almost never advised. They almost always deny it and once they are aware you are on to them, the whole situation changes.

Xero, thank you for your advice! I know that once I get a better idea of what is going on, and if it does turn out to be what I think it is, I will be getting her out of there immediately.

I guess what I am asking is this: put yourself into my shoes and ask what you would do if you were faced with this situation.