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Mom2all · 02-28-2010, 02:58 AM

My question would be this.. when did you decide that this might or might not be child molestation.. before or after you started talk about divorce? It sounds like after. If you really think there is something as horrible as this possibly happening.. YOU DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO TO STOP IT.

That being said...

You keep bringing up CPS. I can't understand you not addressing it yourself. Why would you want to put control of your child in the hands of the state? It reminds me of my cousin and his wife. She decided she wanted a divorce.. so she reported him for sexual abuse thinking it would help her get custody. THEY removed all three kids from both parents for a little over 8 months.. and found her to be a liar. He ended up with custody of all his children and she ended up with nothing. She damaged her children with invasive medical exams, being thrust into a system and tons of therapy. They haven't seen their Mom in years... and everyone involved suffered.

Not to be harsh.. but here is my opinion.

If you knew something was wrong way before you considered seperation and did nothing to stop it.. you are as guilty as Mom for allowing it.

If you are only doing this now to try and help you in the divorce proceeds.. then you should think hard about the damage that will do to everyone. Mostly your daughter who will remember the truth~

If she is really being abused.. YOU HAVE TO STOP IT NOW. Not think about it.. do it.

02-28-2010, 02:58 AM
Mom2all PF Fanatic Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 221 Rep Power: 290 Reputation: 6817	Re: Molestation Issue My question would be this.. when did you decide that this might or might not be child molestation.. before or after you started talk about divorce? It sounds like after. If you really think there is something as horrible as this possibly happening.. YOU DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO TO STOP IT. That being said... You keep bringing up CPS. I can't understand you not addressing it yourself. Why would you want to put control of your child in the hands of the state? It reminds me of my cousin and his wife. She decided she wanted a divorce.. so she reported him for sexual abuse thinking it would help her get custody. THEY removed all three kids from both parents for a little over 8 months.. and found her to be a liar. He ended up with custody of all his children and she ended up with nothing. She damaged her children with invasive medical exams, being thrust into a system and tons of therapy. They haven't seen their Mom in years... and everyone involved suffered. Not to be harsh.. but here is my opinion. If you knew something was wrong way before you considered seperation and did nothing to stop it.. you are as guilty as Mom for allowing it. If you are only doing this now to try and help you in the divorce proceeds.. then you should think hard about the damage that will do to everyone. Mostly your daughter who will remember the truth~ If she is really being abused.. YOU HAVE TO STOP IT NOW. Not think about it.. do it.