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I dunno abou the whole judgement that 8 is too old to need someone to fall asleep with. Our DS1 will be 8 in a couple of weeks and he still likes one of us to lay with him while he falls asleep. We have good conversations in that quiet time, and while it is difficult that we always have to accomodate this time, we also cherish it and will miss it when he's finally done with us.

Now, for the OP, I don't understand the difference between confronting her and calling CPS? Isn't that just confrontation by proxy? Isn't there the potential to talk with her without it being a confrontation? Telling her that your faugheter has expressed that she doesn't like it, inquire what she thinks having been an abuse victim? Point out to her that even if the intention is innocent it's "unwnted touching." If you don't feel comfortable having that conversation then I think you're more concerned than you are letting yourself believe. If you feel your daughter is being vicitmized then yes, you must report DW or otherwise get DD out.