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Natnalexmom · 03-12-2010, 01:55 PM

Thanks for the comments guys. This is very different than her terrible twos. Terrible two for us just took some consistency and setting boundaries for her. I will still check out that section of the forums though, maybe I will find some good ideas.
Antoinette...I have an 18motnh old as well and he is starting to be very testy with us. We have set up a small pack and play in the middle of our house and if he can't not follow through with what we have asked of him then in he goes. Some days its once, some days its 10 times. But he figures it out. We just simply say most of the time, do you want to sit in time out and he will ggive the pout look and then given in to our demands. Also somethign we started doing with both children is asking them if they would like to do what right, or they can choose to do whats wrong and then get "X" consequence. It kind of makes them stop and thing about what they are being held accountable for. If they choose the better choice then we praise them. If they choose not to make the better choice, we don't make a huge deal of it but just say., "oh that's sad because now you have to ..." whatever I told them the consequence was going to be. This worked so well with our three year old and now suddenly it is out the window. But it still works great for the 18 month old and our 2.5 year old.

03-12-2010, 01:55 PM
Natnalexmom Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Oregon Posts: 6 Rep Power: 0 Reputation: 10 Children: 3 children: 2 girls: 3 and 2. 1 boy: 1	Re: defiant 3.5 year old! I am at a loss Thanks for the comments guys. This is very different than her terrible twos. Terrible two for us just took some consistency and setting boundaries for her. I will still check out that section of the forums though, maybe I will find some good ideas. Antoinette...I have an 18motnh old as well and he is starting to be very testy with us. We have set up a small pack and play in the middle of our house and if he can't not follow through with what we have asked of him then in he goes. Some days its once, some days its 10 times. But he figures it out. We just simply say most of the time, do you want to sit in time out and he will ggive the pout look and then given in to our demands. Also somethign we started doing with both children is asking them if they would like to do what right, or they can choose to do whats wrong and then get "X" consequence. It kind of makes them stop and thing about what they are being held accountable for. If they choose the better choice then we praise them. If they choose not to make the better choice, we don't make a huge deal of it but just say., "oh that's sad because now you have to ..." whatever I told them the consequence was going to be. This worked so well with our three year old and now suddenly it is out the window. But it still works great for the 18 month old and our 2.5 year old.