a very hard decision to make.

[Mom2all]

Just a thought. 15 miles is not long stretch of desert highway on foot. Why could you not keep your daughter in the school she's in, take her to school yourself in the morning where she could ride to bus to Gram's in the afternoon.. where that part of her life would continue without being left at school for 12 hours a day. You could pick her up when you get off at night. A bit inconvenient I know.. but it would be less money than paying someone to bus her home.. and for after school care.

If you can't come up with a compromise that will be better for your daughter.. I'd agree with singledad.. it might not be the move you need to make.

[akmom]

Why don't you just ask your girlfriend the same question you're asking us? "I know you don't like Hialeah, but that's where my parents live, and they're the only ones who can take care of my daughter after school." Basically, if you move, one of you is going to have to cut your work hours to be available for her. You better make sure your girlfriend is okay with that before you make a decision, and be clear about which of you it's gonna be. If she's not on board, then I think your girlfriend is trying to say she doesn't want to move in together. Saying she doesn't like Hialeah might just be a tactful way of saying that.

[tadamsmar]

Sounds like a risk worth taking if you have the money for after-school care. The change may be somewhat stressful for your daughter so she will need lots of love and support.

Is there something you are not telling us about your daughter that would make one think she can't handle this change?

Of course, it's not a good sign that your gf won't move.

[mom2kkkb]

I think your daughter and what is best for her should be priority. If you girlfriend loves both of you she will be able to understand that. It sounds like your parents are have a strong presence in her life. Why not move out of your parents home, but still near enough that they are still able to help out with her? This really is a compromise.